Hi Alvesh, I have been through a similar situation a few years ago. My wife's parent were not convinced, but I am now married with her, amicably. I think it is important that you speak to the girl's parents and showcase your strengths and confront their doubts/ questions directly and demonstrate how you are prepared for the future.
Moreover, you should also double check and get more understanding of your condition . . RP is not a stable condition and has high degree of probability of it carrying to the next generations also... It may or may not be the case with you, but it is important to have all the facts in place. Make sure your prospective partner understand all this in detail. Trust, transparency and your confidence will ensure that your relation is based on a strong foundation. Feel free to call me at 9535767654 if you feel like talking about it more. On 3/25/18, Tilakprasad Joshi <[email protected]> wrote: > I feel, as long as girl is okay despite she knowing that one day you > may go completely blind there should not be an issue. > > Warm Regards, > Tilak. > > On 3/20/18, Dr. B. S. M. Kumar <[email protected]> wrote: >> Hi, >> I'm 54yrs old and am married to a sighted woman, for the past 25yrs. I'm >> a >> patient of RP since my birth and currently have lost my vision >> completely. >> At the time of my marriage, during 1993, I had tunnel vision, and could >> move >> around freely during day time and had difficulty moving around in night >> and >> in darkness. >> Kindly call me at my mobile number given at my signature and will guide >> you >> suitably. >> Kind regards, >> >> >> Prof. B.S.M. Kumar, M.Sc., M.Tech., PhD. >> Director (Industry and Education Relationship), Project Starfish >> Email: [email protected] >> Linkedin: https://in.linkedin.com/in/dr-kumar-bsm-39887864 >> Twitter: @BSMKumar1 >> Cell: +91-9840139849 >> Skype: bsm.kumar >> | >> www.pstarfish.org >> | >> "An integrated opportunity and employment platform for the blind and A >> shared service for business and start-ups" >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >> Behalf >> Of Abhisar Waghmare >> Sent: 20 March 2018 10:15 >> To: B. R. Nautial; AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and >> issues concerning the disabled. >> Subject: Re: [AI] Serious advice needed on the issue of marriage with a >> sighted girl >> >> I may be too small to advice over this but I feel that take the girl's >> parents into confidence. Tell them why she will be happy with you, be it >> mentally,physically , financially or whatever. You need to win the trust >> of >> people from girl's side. No doubt your parents have a major role to play >> in >> this, because they are the perfect person who can put your point >> perfectly >> in front of girl's parents. You know big people have their own mutual >> understanding. >> Other thing dont let the girl feel that you are pulling back in any way >> show your constant efforts, talk to her even over phone , keep her >> convinced, because if you loose her you loose everything. Also you have >> to >> be very clever in putting this point that you are not going to marry her >> uncle. This may seem vague but very carefully and cleverly try to put her >> uncle in your place and allow him to think the way you and your parents >> are >> thinking. Just make sure you dont offend anybody, be extremely polite. >> Dont >> let any negative comment overcome you constanltly keep answering them >> positively. and very important dont keep the girl in any dark be it even >> about your RP case, whatever it is if your sight will stay stable or will >> it deteriorate with time. Just be true. Girls love it. >> Cheers Sir. All the best! >> >> On Mon, Mar 19, 2018 at 8:28 PM, B. R. Nautial <[email protected]> >> wrote: >> >>> First of all, take your parrents in confidence and go forward according >>> their advice only. >>> Don't take any decision in hurry at all because one wrong decision may >>> change your life. >>> As our moderator made it clear that vision is not the only criteria for >>> choosing of a life partner. I am sure! you'll get so many good advise >>> from >>> many of our talented & experienced members. Best of luck! ----- >>> Original >>> Message ----- From: "Alvesh Shokeen" <[email protected]> >>> To: "accessindia" <[email protected]> >>> Sent: Monday, March 19, 2018 03:08 PM >>> Subject: [AI] Serious advice needed on the issue of marriage with a >>> sighted girl >>> >>> >>> Hi friends and seniors, I am 30 years old, well educated and central >>>> government employee. I have some serious issue with my eyesight, as >>>> the doctors say that I have Retinitis Pigmentosa, which is stable and >>>> I have fair eyesight to manage my all day to day chores except reading >>>> writing and driving. People generally don't recognize me easily that I >>>> am having problem of eyesight. >>>> Before few months I was introduced to a girls family with a view of >>>> marriage, the girl was also there. The girls family liked me looking >>>> my job and higher education, as I am well settled in my life. >>>> Thereafter I started chatting with that girl, she also started liking >>>> me and we started talking on phone for longer hours. I clearly told >>>> that girl that I have serious issue with my eyesight, and I can see >>>> little, and I prefer to take someone with me if I go out to unknown >>>> places or while traveling. She looked perfectly fine with that, she >>>> told me that she will be with me in any case. Then second time her >>>> family came to meet me formally and I told her father about my >>>> eyesight issue, he also looked quite normal with that, and he said >>>> that physical problem may hit anyone so we are ok with it. Thereafter >>>> we met in a function again. Everything was going normal. But nothing >>>> sort of engagement etc was done as my family was not ready to fix the >>>> marriage so erly. >>>> In between few of my relatives told the mother of the girl that this >>>> boy has very serious issue with his eyesight, as he can not go outside >>>> alone, and he can not walk in sunlight and he can not do his work >>>> independently. After listening this all (which is not true) her mother >>>> created lots of drama, and convinced the father of girl that they will >>>> not marry their daughter to me. >>>> Now present situation is that the girl is in full favour of me, she is >>>> trying her best to convince her parants that she has no issue with >>>> eyesight problem of the boy. But her mother is torturing her and >>>> blackmailing her emotionally saying that you will always be in pain if >>>> you will not be obedient to your mother. >>>> So dear friends, kindly suggest me what should I do here, should I >>>> talk to her parants and try to remove their doubts about the situation >>>> which they have visualized in their minds on the account of my poor >>>> eyesight? Because they are saying only thing that how will he manage >>>> if he has poor eyesight. Should I try to save my relationship with >>>> that girl who is supporting me despite of my visual impairment? Will I >>>> be losing an understanding and supporting life partner if I let this >>>> relationship go? Or will it emotionally hurt me back as the family of >>>> the girl will target me after the marriage due to my eyes problem.. >>>> Please suggest me what should I do, as I am in difficult situation. >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> Search for old postings at: >>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>> >>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>> [email protected] >>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>> >>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>> please visit the list home page at >>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>>> Disclaimer: >>>> 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking >>>> of >>>> the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its >> veracity; >>>> >>>> 2. 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