I believe and experience that true love is a journey and it evolves over a period of time. Though, it is generally true that a partner with a disability may be sympathised at first moment due to lack of exposure/experience/knowledge/societal pressure/prejudice hence not taken as a romantic partner but with the passage of time the relationship may get deepened and may evolves into a mature love. But I also opine that even marriages between abled bodies may not have romantic lives simply because there is no mind compatibility. I also understand due to societal biasis people also are afraid to express their actual feelings. Though there is no denial to the fact of eye contact but that's not the only reason instead the main reason is more thoughts compatibility/non-compatibility. The law of the nature is that each and every individual is incomplete in oneself unless another comes to accompany the one. It is our ego that looks down-side or up-side in oneself or another. I have learned over a period of time that if there are less expectations from each other and there is a space in each other's life for pluses and minuses then I think any married life can go well. It is true for all human beings including one having disability or not having disability.
On 12/26/19, Asudani, Rajesh <[email protected]> wrote: > As I say, exclusion may or may not be deliberate, but inclusion has to be > so. > > I don't know how many disabled-non-disabled are love marriages, but some > definitely are particularly when the other partner also has an actual or > perceived disadvantage in the marriage market. > > > सादर / With thanks & Regards > राजेश आसुदानी Rajesh Asudani > सहायक महाप्रबन्धक AGM > बाजार आसूचना ईकाई MIU > भारतीय रिजर्व बैंक Reserve Bank of India > नागपुर Nagpur > > 0712 2806846 > > President > VIBEWA > Co-Moderator > VIB-India > President > DARE-Disability Advocacy, Research and Education > A-pilll = Action coupled with Positivity, Interest, Love, Logic and > laughter > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Rahul Bajaj > Sent: 26 December 2019 01:28 > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] Blindness and being friend-zoned by potential partners > > Sometimes, it may very well be unconscious bias. People may not even realize > that they are excluding someone as a potential partner when they actually > are. > > Rahul > > > Sent from my iPhone > >> On Dec 25, 2019, at 3:50 PM, sheik mohammedali <[email protected]> >> wrote: >> >> Yes I also second this. >> Strong reason is that since we do not make eye to eye contact they might >> not be able to express their feelings and vice versa. >> and first impression would be sympathetic when they see us with a stick or >> escort. >> That is why we cannot expect the actual true love feelings with the >> sighted partner. >> But still there are exceptional cases like many of us have got married to >> the sighted partners but how many are love myrriages?. >> >> Thanks and best regards, >> Ali >> Get Outlook<https://aka.noclick_ms/qtex0l> for iOS >> >> ________________________________ >> From: AccessIndia <[email protected]> on behalf >> of Rahul Bajaj <[email protected]> >> Sent: Wednesday, December 25, 2019 2:17 PM >> To: [email protected] >> Subject: [AI] Blindness and being friend-zoned by potential partners >> >> Hi, all, >> >> Based on your lived experience, is it true that being disabled increases >> the likelihood of a potential partner only considering you a friend, >> rather than looking at you in romantic terms? 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