Folks: Let’s remember that the issue of disability and abuse of women go far beyond the scope of this list. We can’t afford to be oblivious to cases of sexual abuse in which one of our own is involved. While this is a bad news, we should be glad that rape and sexual abuse news are proportionately less in number compared to the good news picked up by newspapers about the blind and the community at large. I think incidents like this take place because of two very important reasons:
1. Lack of education: I think sexual awareness or feelings towards the opposite sex are pretty much hushed up subjects not only in this group but in the wider society as well. While the able-bodied population finds outlet in different ways, this gets pretty much bottled up in a visually challenged man and, not so surprisingly, it explodes in an unpleasant way. Compounding the problem is the fact that visually challenged women have constantly been portrayed as defenceless and vulnerable and can be messed up with, even by a fellow blind man without much ingenuity. So education has to happen to both VI men and women about the way and nature of intimate relationships and how they should behave/react in such situations. 2. Lack of opportunity: Welll friends, I am reminded of this saying “morality is lack of opportunity”. We know what to do with our minds, but most of us, honestly speaking, do not know what to do with our feelings. Let’s first accept that such feelings do exist in some unknown corner of our minds and it is unfortunate that circumstances some how turn out in such a way that we find gratification in ways that are not right under the law. Once we have the education, I think our VI friends must be taught how to handle those feelings without harming or causing discomfort to others. What is needed is a means of sex and adult education (for both VI men and women), self defence psychological techniques for VI women and a channel for our community to express themselves responsibily, legally and morally. regards, Subramani On 11/6/11, pradeep banakar <[email protected]> wrote: > http://timesofindia.in... > > MUMBAI: The Kolsewadi police in Kalyan (E) on Friday arrested a > 39-year-old blind man for allegedly raping his friend's 24-year-old > wife, who is also blind, at his friend's residence in Manpada, > Dombivli, on October 27. > > The police also arrested accused Ashok Yadav's friend Mahesh Yadav > (22), also blind, for aiding him. > > Investigators said the victim, a resident of Ambernath, and the > accused, from Kalyan (E), sell fruits, vegetables and stationery items > on local trains and they got friendly due to their common profession. > > The matter came to light on Friday, when the victim's husband (also > blind) got suspicious after his wife stopped talking to Ashok. > > On repeated questioning, the victim broke down and revealed that > Ashok, on the pretext of repairing a mobile phone, took her to his > friend's flat in Manpada and repeatedly raped her. In the police > complaint, the victim's husband, said, "Before leaving for Pune for > personal work, I decided to leave my wife at my friend Ashok's Kalyan > residence. While leaving her, I bought her a mobile phone and got a > prepaid SIM card. However, she was unable to operate it. When she > asked Ashok to help her in activating it, he claimed that the phone > had to be repaired and took her to Dombivli, where he raped her." > > Kolsewadi police assistant inspector I V Vishwakarma said they had > booked Ashok for rape and his accomplice for aiding him in the crime. > "The victim maintained silence for almost a week. The accused were > arrested from their residences." > > > -- > With Regards > Pradeep T.S > Email: [email protected] > Mobile: 9845925188 > Skype: pradeepsocialwork > > Register for AccessIndia convention 2011(November 12-13) at: > http://www.accessindia.org.in/harish/convention.htm > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > -- L. Subramani, Snr. Subeditor, Deccan Herald, Bangalore, M: 91-9886046612 "You see and ask why? I dream and ask why not?" Register for AccessIndia convention 2011(November 12-13) at: http://www.accessindia.org.in/harish/convention.htm Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
