Nitesh, if your friend has never been out of station alone, tell him to first have an experience of it. He can also first take her to local places to check his ability.
Girls wish to be in the company of strong, independent men because they want security from them. if your friend fails to be confident, it will spoil the trip. A-male-guide-holding-the-female-hand situation is never tolerable. A sensitive girl can ruin several hours in that. They both must think over all the situations that can come their way...with girls it is riskier. On 5/23/14, nidhi goyal <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi nitesh, > I am glad you put out this problem in front of the group. And I am > extremely delighted to see the enthusiastic responses from the > experienced. > You have more than a few tips listed by your friends. But as a VI > woman with a VI brother and many VI friends (male as well) I would > like to add a few points. > Ask your friend not to be so apprehensive. It's only when he goes on > the trip, he will figure out the solutions to all of these. He cant > really prepare for every eventuality in advance. So besides general > preparation, confidence will be his key. > if there is still some time left before he plans this trip, please > ask him to get a white cane and try and get his mobility in place. The > cabs and the guides take you so far. You have to have the ability to > get up and walk out or in a restaurant or hotel etc on your own if you > are planning to have a nice time as a VI and specially with another VI > mate. Also, i have researched a bit in disability and romance and my > findings say that women (disabled or nondisabled) feel safer and more > secure if their partner is independent (irrespective of blind or > otherwise). > > I have been to other cities (in India and abroad) with my brother and > my VI friends. and to give you an example I was strolling in a park > with a VI friend and I as a VI woman, would have hated to have a guide > hovering in the background while we swopped our childhood stories, or > crazy moments, ideological opinions etc. not at every moment did we > know where we were heading. sometimes my friend took the lead, > sometimes i did and it was fun. > And of course, there is no harm in a woman guiding you - VI or > otherwise- but men (not generalizing but many of them) tend to get > either too demeaned with this, or get quite insecure about the male > waitor / guide/ cabby holding their lady partners and guiding them. > Hope your friend will not be similarly affected - always assuming his > mate is better with mobility and the white cane. > That is a lengthy list and of course I could keep writing but I think > we all have by now overwhelmed your friend! > Good luck and fun time to him and his partner. > Cheers, > Nidhi Goyal > Disability and gender rights advocate, India > MSC Development Studies, LSE > Twitter @saysnidhigoyal > > > > > On 5/23/14, Amar Jain <[email protected]> wrote: >> Hi Nitesh, >> >> I surely don't have the experience of any tour with a female partner >> as such, but being a person who does not hold stick in hand I can give >> you some tips which I generally follow. >> >> 1. Reached at the entrence of the Airport. Now if your cab driver for >> whatever reason cannot drop you to the counter then use security staff >> present there for help. >> Generally Meru and other such cool cab drivers manage to either drop >> you or get you someone who can drop you. >> >> 2. Hotels and all such details are available online or you can get >> numbers from Just Dial etc. Book them in advance to avoid last minute >> tensions. >> >> Use waiters wherever you need, such as auto catching or food serving >> in the room. Tip them. >> >> 3. For outing I strongly recommend city tour services given by >> government and private operators. >> Firstly you have co-passengers so less chance of missing things. >> Secondly you can take help from conductors. It depends, sometimes it >> may not work. >> >> 4. Food serving part can be managed in 2 ways. One is that before >> sitting inform to the owner or the counter guy that you need help, and >> second is to take waiter's cell number so that if you need anything, >> either call or miss call depending on your conversation. Otherwise do >> not feel shy to put up hand if you can sense that waiter is passing >> by. >> However be careful while putting up hand, as if not done properly, it >> can create unnecessary drama. >> >> The most important part about the safety of your partner, I can only >> say that be little cautious with whomsoever you are dealing with, take >> their details, do not tell where you are staying or your personal >> details, and just like how we care for our sister care for your >> partner. >> >> Wish that lucky couple a happy trip! >> -- >> Amar Jain. >> Website: www.amarjain.com >> >> >> >> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of >> mobile phones / Tabs on: >> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> >> Search for old postings at: >> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >> >> To unsubscribe send a message to >> [email protected] >> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >> please >> visit the list home page at >> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> >> Disclaimer: >> 1. 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