Kate: Michael is correct (according to the current "accepted wisdom" in psychology). We may change our behaviour by deciding to do so, based on a revision of our current thinking, or by clarifying past feelings and experiences and, on that basis, coming to make new choices in behaviour. Life would be simpler if we all did what we "ought" to do. Most of us do, most of the time. We may still regret our behavioural choices, either opportunities missed or leaping without looking. Bela C
----- Original Message ----- From: [email protected] To: [email protected] Subject: Re: The good sort of sentimentality Date: Tue, 20 Jan 2009 16:48:49 EST In a message dated 1/20/09 4:17:51 PM, [email protected] writes: > Do we need to feel a certain way in order to act [= decide] a > certain way, or do we act a certain way in order to feel a > certain way. > I thought you did what you ought to and felt about it later. Ought to is reached by reason. If you did what you felt half the time whatever wouldn't get done. There are of course exceptions to the rule. KAte Sullivan ************** Inauguration '09: Get complete coverage from the nation's capital.(http://www.aol.com?ncid=emlcntaolcom00000027) -- Be Yourself @ mail.com! Choose From 200+ Email Addresses Get a Free Account at www.mail.com
