On Wed, 29 May 2002, Dan Minette wrote:

>
> Could you provide examples of these specific diagnoses?  The most specific
> one that I remember is Rob's "he is probably mentally ill."  That's pretty
> general statement, and it was meant as a defense.  Rob mentioned that he has
> dealt with mental illness very closely, as have I and others on the list.

No, because I wiped my mailbox of brin-l messages (which I do whenever I
start topping 1000) about a day and a half ago, and I'm too lazy to go
through Yahoo searching.  However...

>
> Please point out to me when I did therapy with him.  I'd be happy to bet a
> drink, payable when I ever get to Austin or when you get here that I didn't
> do that.

...I'm content to admit that I overreacted and attributed to you and
others actions based not on fact but on fear.  (Fear leads to anger, anger
leads to bad posts.)  I'm very sorry.

That still leaves the problem of how to deal with Mark.  I like Erik's
idea:  it offers a way to define the problem, our "boundaries," and so on
before we go all ban-happy.

When I read Mark's posts, what I see is a high volume of messages in
which:

* Most are strangely worded but innocuous posts that nevertheless contain
interesting ideas, many of which could easily start a nearly-on-topic thread
about technology, society, and so on, if people would only look past their
knee-jerk annoyance at the sheer volume and/or peculiar style.

* A smaller but still noticeable number of posts are so cryptic that
they're hard to make out: weird but not offensive.

* A few posts that include vulgarity for no obvious reason, but the
vulgarity is not generally wielded against any particular listmember
(though I can think of one or two exceptions).

*  An even fewer number of posts in which Mark offers way too much
information about his private thoughts about his sex life or his lack
thereof; regarding the latter, sometimes the comments border on
misogynistic, but I haven't seen one of these for a while now.  I rather
hope not to see any more of them.

And finally,

* There's an annoying tendency to cross-post, although I don't see these
because I'm not on any of the lists to which Mark is cross-posting.

Of all these, the last is the one that, to my mind, offers the most clear
example of uncivil behavior in an on-line forum.  The rest are
sufficiently open to interpretion that merely saying "follow the
guidelines" isn't enough to provide a set of "boundaries," limits, or
criteria for banning or disciplining the alleged offender.

So, if we need to send Mark a warning, here are the requests I'd make:

* No crossposting
* Keep your thoughts about your private sex life to yourself
* Please refrain from using profanity

As far as enforcement is concerned, I would expect us to show Mark the
same degree of latitude we have historically granted ourselves.  (For
instance, we've never tried to ban anybody just for the occasional use of
an expletive.)


Marvin Long
Austin, Texas

There ain't no Devil; there's just God when he's drunk.
   -- Tom Waits

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