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> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]On
> Behalf Of Baardwijk, J. van DTO/SLWPD/RZO/BOZO
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> That is not how I see it. I see myself (the victim of Erik's attack) being
> attacked for defending myself, and at the same time see Erik's
> misbehaviour
> being approved of.
Very seriously, Jeroen, may I suggest that you look into what it means to
see yourself as a victim. It is utterly self-defeating. The antidote is to
figure out how to be in charge of your life, free to choose not to be a
victim because you are responsible for your own happiness. You're killing
yourself with the power you've given to others to decide what you feel.
Have you stopped to think that when you demand that Erik prove you are
mentally ill, you are admitting that you may be mentally ill? If you aren't
ill and you know it, then you'd know that Erik can't possibly have any
proof.
Imagine any drama in which someone is accused of a crime, who responds to
accusations by saying "Yeah? Prove it!" What does the audience immediately
think? "Guilty!" The innocent person either ignores the accusation because
it is not credible or sets out to prove his innocence. But under no
circumstances does it make sense for the innocent person to rant "Prove it!"
because there is nothing to prove.
Stop being a victim, which is an attitude that most certainly can lead to
mental health problems.
Nick
