"John D. Giorgis" wrote:
> One of the original principles of this List is that it should be open to
> "rough-and-tumble" adult conservation. So long as Gautam is employing a
> semblance of rasoning and attempting to engage in constructive discussion,
> I think that there is nothing wrong with him being a little heated in his
> language. Or to put it simply - I hardly think that Gautam was engaging
> in particularly uncivil behaviour to warrant the level of on-list
> rebukement generated.
John--
I mostly agree with you here. I certainly would not be
offended if someone accidentally insulted me in the heat of an argument.
I guess what jumped out at me in my recent exchanges with Gautam was
that it looked like he was intentionally delivering a mild insult
at the end of every post. Most of his reply would be perfectly
civil, and then there would always be a dig at the end. I can't
really argue that this is any worse than my calling some of his
views ridiculous, and refusing to be respectful towards his
president. Still, I found it annoying, and commented on it.
> I know that I've said this one way or another 1,000 times - but it is worth
> reiterating.... We are all friends here, and if we are *serious* in
> wanting to make constructive changes in a friend's behavior - then we pull
> that friend aside OFFLIST to quietly let them know that we think they are
> starting to step over the line.
Normally I would. This time, onlist felt right. Maybe
it was because it felt like he was doing it intentionally. Got
me. Sorry.
---David
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