On Sep 4, 2005, at 11:51 PM, Robert Seeberger wrote:
I do know that it really bothered me after the tsunami that it never was discussed, and I don't think varying grief modes can explain that.
FWIW, one of the things I'm fairly conscious of is that noises of sympathy are just that; they can't really do much materially to help.
Certainly letting a person know that s/he's thought of is helpful *to that person's outlook*, but I also know the odds are vanishingly small that any comment I might make will reach anyone.
To me something like "My heart goes out to this or that group…" is a little like "I'm praying for this or that group…" It just doesn't carry the weight with me that it might with others, so I tend not to say such things. It's not for lack of caring; it's because I know that sometimes words just don't help.
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