when i am able to dance these days, i almost always dance the gent's role. i
have a problem with my right foot and too many guys just don't pick up on
signals and it gets tiring for me to tell people to stop yanking me around. but
even when i was a dancing fanatic, there were experienced men i never danced
with because they were absolutely sure they could throw me around no matter how
many times i asked them not to.
yup, at some dances, it's just how things are. on the other hand, i've been
to plenty of dances where i've been treated courteously and appropriately, so i
tend to think it is the culture of the particular dance community or region.
cheers,barb > Date: Mon, 7 Jan 2013 06:04:16 -0800
> From: [email protected]
> To: [email protected]
> Subject: Re: [Callers] women's experiences
>
> I am curious - is this seen more often in women than it is in men playing the
> role of the woman? I've been the woman a number of times in dances, and I do
> see the pushiness of some males - twirling me when I don't want to be
> twirled, even being subject to a (small) dip one time. Generally though (at
> least in my home communities) I'm not subject to this. It also doesn't SEEM
> like women are resigned to pushy males - most ladies I see seem to enjoy
> their twirls and dips - but that could be due to the segregation of lines
> that has occurred, at least at Glen Echo.
>
> Perry
>
>
>
>
> ________________________________
> From: Ron T Blechner <[email protected]>
> To: Caller's discussion list <[email protected]>
> Sent: Monday, January 7, 2013 8:45 AM
> Subject: Re: [Callers] women's experiences
>
> I've been having conversations with a lot of my female friends in the dance
> community over the past 6 months over their experiences as women. I won't
> make a lengthy itemization of what I've found, because I think it's
> something every caller should do for themself, however, the one thought I'd
> share is the one I find most disappointing:
> - Women have expressed that they put up with far more crap from pushy males
> than I personally would put up with had the situation be reversed; there is
> a far more prevalent sense of resignation of "that's just how things are /
> it's not so bad" than I had believed.
>
> in dance,
> Ron
>
> On Mon, Jan 7, 2013 at 1:27 AM, Aahz Maruch <[email protected]> wrote:
>
> > On Sun, Jan 06, 2013, Tom Hinds wrote:
> > >
> > > I haven't been following this topic of lead/follow at all but Bree's
> > > statement really caught my eye. I'm very curious to know what it's
> > > like to dance as a women with men who have a wide range of skills
> > > and personalities.
> > >
> > > I should set aside an evening and dance disguised as a women to
> > > really understand what the experience is like.
> >
> > Unless you have experience cross-dressing (i.e. can successfully
> > disguise yourself), your experience will almost certainly be somewhat
> > different from a woman's. I definitely get treated somewhat differently
> > by men.
> >
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