With regard to roughness during flourishes Perry wrote: > Ugh - that's not good for our community. Y'know, I've been dancing for > years, but often people tell me, hey, don't pull so hard, and I am always > happy to adjust because I do not want to be the cause of someone else's > pain or discomfort. I'm sure that there are probably several dancers who > just don't dance with me because I might have tugged too hard or cranked > too hard in the past - all they have to do is say so. People should be > free to express to another dancer, hey, this hurts, don't do that, and a > good dancer should adjust.
...Or not. Seems that the default should be to assume everyone wants to be treated respectfully and gently. No one should ever have to ask for that care and consideration. As is always the case: It's the caller's fault. The caller needs to take full responsibility for everything that happens in the hall. And that includes unwanted flourishes or roughness in the lines. With lots of young people at our dances this has sometimes been a problem here in the Santa Cruz area. When calling I deal with it in short, positive comments from the mike. I think the caller is in the best position to set a tone of gracious consideration in the hall. - Greg McKenzie
