This is Cdny’s etiquette page. It addresses saying no but not in great detail in terms of historical practice.
http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/ Sent from my iPhone > On Dec 16, 2017, at 2:39 PM, Kalia Kliban via Callers > <[email protected]> wrote: > > Hi all, > > Those of us who started dancing 2 or 3 decades back probably remember the > rule about sitting out the dance if you turn down a partner offer. A very > competent male dancer I know who started around the same time I did (late > 80s) recently confessed to me that he never asks anyone to dance because he > doesn't want to put folks in the position of thinking "If I don't dance with > this guy then I have to sit one out. Oh crap, guess I'll have to dance with > him." For the record, he's a totally solid and delightful dancer. > > To what extent has that earlier etiquette norm either survived or been > replaced, and what has it been replaced with? In your dance community, do > you have a written statement of the etiquette around this? Our community's > statement doesn't directly address this issue. > > Kalia > _______________________________________________ > List Name: Callers mailing list > List Address: [email protected] > Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/
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