> Mostly, I think you'd have to have this incredibly amazing and solid
> sense of self to not get jealous in a polyamorous relationship. Me?
> Don't know if I could do it. But, I've also always said that I value
> honesty more than monogamy. So, perhaps if I were with someone that
> could truly be honest about it....
Having watched one of my best college buds in a relationship with a
polyamorous bisexual who was also dating a lesbian (I know, it sounds
like a porn waiting to happen. It never happened), I can say with a
certain amount of certainty that I would be *way* too jealous for it to
work.
To be honest, I'm a bit of a jealous guy to begin with. Of course, I
try to find positives there and mitigate the negatives. For example, I
participate in things with her that I might not otherwise, which teaches
me more about her and broadens my horisons. Also, just knowing that I'm
like that helps keep me from ever acting on it. The flip side is that I
tend to be a bit doting, which most of my girlfriends seem to have
liked. :-)
As far as honesty vs. monogamy, I'd say that honesty is a requirement
for any relationship (at least any I'd want to be part of) regardless of
how many people are involved.
--Ben
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