I never busted my kids ass out of anger, neither did my parents. You always have to at least count to 10 and cool off if you even have a problem thinking you might hit your kid out of anger thats never the way.
On Mon, 21 Mar 2005 12:40:59 -0600, Deanna Schneider <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Yah, it's Skinner-esque, and like I said, I won't gaurantee that I'll > never swat him. But, I do hope that if I do it's not out of anger or > frustration - which I think is how most people use physical > punishment. I mean, I'd never hit my husband just because I'm mad at > him. Why would I hit my child? > > On Mon, 21 Mar 2005 13:02:56 -0500, Jim Davis > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Deanna Schneider [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > Sent: Monday, March 21, 2005 12:37 PM > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: Re: You know it's been a tough day at kindergarten when ... > > > > > > Well, I still don't really believe in hitting. I watched an > > > interaction between a dad and daughter in the aiport the other day. > > > Long story short, he swatted her on the butt, and her response to was > > > to hit him back. > > > > True - but it can also be effective if done right. What I think most > > parents miss is the "Set up". You just can't hit and expect it to be > > effective. Just plain hitting provokes the playground response to hit back. > > > > Hitting/spanking/whatever should be a planned punishment like any other - > > even if that plan is short. Both of my kids have been swatted. But before > > I do I tell them about it, then I count to three. After "three" they got > > the swat. > > > > In very short order only the counting was needed well over 99% of the time. > > (With that very occasional carry-through to reinforce things.) > > > > My father's case was similar - my grandfather used the belt. Just the > > action of unbuckling would deal with most problems. > > > > It's all very Skinnerian but it seems to work for us. > > > > Jim Davis > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Purchase Contribute 3 from House of Fusion, a Macromedia Authorized Affiliate and support the CF community. http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=53 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:151145 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
