S.I. Are you footing the bill for the ex's apartment and living expenses also?
Thanks Scott Scott A. Stewart Webmaster/ Developer GlobalNet Services, Inc http://www.gnsi.com 11820 Parklawn Dr Rockville, MD 20852 Voice: (301) 770-9610 x 335 Fax: (301) 770-9611 The information contained in this message may be privileged, confidential, and protected from disclosure. If the reader of this message is not the intended recipient, or any employee or agent responsible for delivering this message to the intended recipient, you are hereby notified that any dissemination, distribution, or copying of this communication is strictly prohibited. If you have received this communication in error, please notify us immediately by replying to the message and deleting it from your computer. -----Original Message----- From: S. Isaac Dealey [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 1:41 PM To: CF-Community Subject: RE: frustrated... 3 kids, 1 ex and 1 girlfriend. And okay, yes, the girlfriend is my bag, and I support her 'cause she hasn't really worked in the 5 yrs since we've been together, but I don't believe it's my place to tell someone to get a job (and the only thing that accomplishes with my ex is it makes it harder for me to talk to my kids), and she helps me out by letting me get more work done instead of having to do laundry or dishes or cook for myself. :) It's not like either of us feel that's "her place", it's just a convenient arrangement and she's happy to help me get more hours toward my own goals. I've not hired a lawyer in the last 5 years because ::drum-roll:: can't afford one. How am I supposed to afford a lawyer if I can't hardly pay the bills I already have? Beyond that I've met numerous divorced fathers who've spent thousands and thousands of dollars basically just throwing money down the toilet trying to find an attorney who either can or will do anything to help them with their divorce problems. I'm reasonably convinced that if there is such a person, he's too busy to accept me as a client even if I could afford his exhorbitant fees ('cause he'll definately be the most expensive attorney on this planet). Got me a vassectomy right after my ex and I split up... I keep it under my... well, you know where I keep it. :) As I've said, a number of stupid decisions made when I was a kid, like getting married to the wrong woman and not being adamant about waiting a while to have kids, both of which fed into how I fouled up my chance to have a degree. > Shit man, sounds like you need a better lawyer, not a > better job. > How many kids you got bro? > Maybe need to throw a vestictamy as well. > -- > Tim Heald > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > 703-300-3911 > -----Original Message----- > From: S. Isaac Dealey [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 1:10 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: frustrated... > You can, but I can't. The difference is that I support a > family of 6 with 2 > separate living spaces (apartments in both cases) on a > single income. I > would LOVE for that to be a luxury, like the Mazerati I'm > not trying to get > myself into, and be able to just say "you know what, we > don't need 2 homes", > but people and laws prevent me from making that decision. > Or for that matter > from even reducing the cost of the 2nd living space any. >> I don't have a degree, and make significantly more than >> $80K right >> now. >> BTW I lived her eon $60K with two kids and a wife and two >> car >> payments. >> It's not as expensive as some people are making it out to >> be. I mean, >> you live in the burbs and ride a train, it isn't that >> bad. I just >> went to contract on a house here for 482,600. It's in >> Columbia MD, So >> it'll be a commute, compared to the rental we live in in >> Alexandria. >> -- >> Tim Heald >> [EMAIL PROTECTED] >> 703-300-3911 >> -----Original Message----- >> From: Scott Stewart [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] >> Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 12:34 PM >> To: CF-Community >> Subject: RE: frustrated... >> Keep looking, I don't have a degree, and while I'm not >> making $80k I'm >> doing alright.. >> Thanks >> Scott >> Scott A. Stewart >> Webmaster/ Developer >> GlobalNet Services, Inc >> http://www.gnsi.com >> 11820 Parklawn Dr >> Rockville, MD 20852 >> Voice: (301) 770-9610 x 335 >> Fax: (301) 770-9611 >> The information contained in this message may be >> privileged, confidential, >> and protected from disclosure. If the reader of this >> message is not the >> intended recipient, or any employee or agent responsible >> for delivering this >> message to the intended recipient, you are hereby >> notified >> that any >> dissemination, distribution, or copying of this >> communication is strictly >> prohibited. If you have received this communication in >> error, please notify >> us immediately by replying to the message and deleting it >> from your >> computer. >> -----Original Message----- >> From: S. Isaac Dealey [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] >> Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 12:34 PM >> To: CF-Community >> Subject: RE: frustrated... >>> I'm telling you man, you need to move to DC. The >>> salaries are much >>> better than that, the killer is the housing costs >>> though. >> I'm talking to recruiters about jobs in DC. >> I was actually thinking about a company that I contacted >> directly because >> I'm personally interested in the company (not because I >> saw them post a job >> description), where the hiring manager told me not only >> that they don't hire >> people without degrees (with one exception), but that he >> didn't think my >> min. DC salary of $80k would be reasonable and that he'd >> be hard pressed to >> get me $70k for a full-time job. I can't live on less >> than >> $80k in DC! I've >> checked the market and done the math, and asside from the >> fact that I can't >> pay bills there for any less, $80k makes me a bargain in >> that market! >> Admittedly, it doesn't help that I still have 2+ hrs >> drive >> to get there and >> at the moment have no money for relocation. I didn't have >> any money for >> relocation when I came to Charlottesville, I got an >> advance, and then had to >> take a pay cut to work here, so you can imagine how much >> I've saved up to >> help me move from here to DC. But if they discount me for >> not having a >> degree, their not paying relocation becomes moot. >> s. isaac dealey 434.293.6201 >> new epoch : isn't it time for a change? >> add features without fixtures with >> the onTap open source framework >> http://www.fusiontap.com >> http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm >> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ >> ~ >> > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:201177 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
