Last time I checked, you can't really choose to have a baby without a man willing to donate some needed fluid.
I think to call it sexist for a man to want a woman to perform a traditional role is, frankly, a rather narrow point of view and diminishes the importance of home life. Many women who choose the role of homemaker say it is very satisfying. I can see how it would be satisfying, especially if you were raising children. While it's not often recognized as such, the role a mother plays in our society is among the most important (I don't have kids of my own, just for the record). It would be immoral to force any person into labor he or she doesn't want to perform, which is different from saying it is sexist. It would be equally immoral to force a woman to have a career, as some men do because they want the extra paycheck in the household, when she wants to stay home (assuming the man earns enough to make it possible). And I would say the opposition notion applies as well. But hopefully in any marriage, the man (or woman) would make clear and the woman (or man) would understand and accept well before the "I Dos" that he (or she) expected this or that. My wife had a career when we met and when we got married. When she decided to stay home, I didn't stop her, even though it was a financial hardship. When she wanted to start working part-time, primarily because she realized how much we were struggling financially, I was OK with that, even though it meant no longer getting home cooked meals every night, etc. And some day she may want a career again, and I'll have to do more house cleaning, etc. But I'll agree to that, as well. There will always be a certain amount of I'm a man and she's a women tradition in our marriage, but it never stands in the way of either of us doing what we find most fulfilling at any moment. I like having a domestic wife, like it a lot, but that isn't the most important thing. Now this may sound like I'm contradicting my previous post -- what I mean to say is, if my wife was militant about not being domestic, I would have a problem with that and I purposely avoided those types of women while dating. But with my wife, even if she worked fulltime in a career type of job, she would still want to feel like she runs the household matters. H. -----Original Message----- From: Beth F [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 10:42 AM To: CF-Community Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods Well it IS sexist - against women or men because I think that women and men should have the same choices in order for it not to be sexist. For example: the fact that I can choose to have a baby and you cant' is sexist. Its also unalterable but its still sexist. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Michael Dinowitz" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 8:01 AM Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > Does it have to be either? It's a requirement for one and a choice for the other. It's just the way it is. > > >I am not sure if thats sexist for women or against them. > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ Get the mailserver that powers this list at http://www.coolfusion.com Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
