----- Original Message -----
From: Larry C. Lyons
To: CF-Community
Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 10:53 AM
Subject: Re: I think I'm in trouble
I've seen the exact thing happen with a woman I know. She married this guy
who pulled that sort of routine several times - make a major purchase
without informing her. First it was an expensive computer, and then a
Camero. There was a couple of other similar incidents, unfortunately I
can't remember them. She essentially supports the both of them as this guy
does not work, beyond an occasional part time job - and those last
typically less than 2 to 3 weeks.
I can understand where Matt's fiancee is coming from.
larry
At 02:19 PM 12/30/2003, you wrote:
>If she freaked over a HDD or something, yeah. Cars, at least to me,
>qualify as Major Decisions. While I can totally see myself doing
>exactly what he did, I can also see her point. She's wondering if one
>day he'll change jobs without mentioning it, or say "Oh, by the way. I
>just bought a house."
>
>Of course, I could be wrong. As the 2nd youngest known member of this
>community, it's not like I've been there. :-)
>
>--benD
>
>BethF wrote:
>
> > And if I were he, I would be concerned that she would try and
> > micromanage my every decision after we were married.
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: Ben Doom
> > To: CF-Community
> > Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 9:48 AM
> > Subject: Re: I think I'm in trouble
> >
> > I would postulate that she was worried that he might make similar
> > decisions *after* they were married. I'd bet that it was amplified
> > quite a bit by the fact that he hadn't mentioned it, and she felt like
> > she was being left out of important parts of his life.
> >
> > Not so much the car, but what the car represented.
> >
> > --benD
> >
> > BethF wrote:
> >
> > > Obviously, the amount of money wasnt' the issue for this woman since
> > she
> > > suddenly likes the car.
> > >
> > > ----- Original Message -----
> > > From: Deanna Schneider
> > > To: CF-Community
> > > Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 9:02 AM
> > > Subject: Re: Re:I think I'm in trouble
> > >
> > > I think it affects her because she's his fiance, who he soon will
> > live
> > > with
> > > and share all expenses with. And, unless he paid in full for the
> > new car,
> > > it's another bill that she'll be sharing. I think.
> > > -d
> > >
> > > ----- Original Message -----
> > > From: "BethF" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> > > To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> > > Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 11:37 AM
> > > Subject: Re: Re:I think I'm in trouble
> > >
> > > > How does this decision affect his girlfriend he doesn't live with?
> >
>
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