There were control issues in my marriage... though ultimately that's
not why we split up... and I feel like there are control issues in my
current relationship, but what the hell, it can't all be perfect. ;)

> I sense major control issues, personally. But maybe he
> likes it that way...
> :::shrug:: there are some things some people are not ready
> to hear, and I have said my bit.

> Matt, I hope it all works out for you.

> Dana

>>Hey Tim,
>>
>>"so screwed" can be a very good thing! ;-)
>>
>>but I presume you mean it the *other* way -
>>just curious why if ya don't mind me asking?
>>
>>-Ben
>>
>>
>>>Wow you're so screwed if you marry this chick.
>>>
>>>And it's really not way faster, I would be glad to prove
>>>it when ever you
>>>feel like coming up to dc.
>>>  -----Original Message-----
>>>  From: Matthew Small [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>>  Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 3:45 PM
>>>  To: CF-Community
>>>  Subject: Re: I think I'm in trouble
>>>
>>>
>>>  OK everyone, I have a lot of answers straight from the
>>>  source...
>>>
>>>  1)  She's upset because I made a major purchase without
>>>  consulting her.
>>>    To my credit, I have been telling her that I wanted
>>>    something new, but
>>>  I didn't find anything until I saw this Mustang.
>>>
>>>  2) She would not have been mad if I had bought
>>>  something sensible, just
>>>  a bit annoyed that I had not included her.  This is not
>>>  because she
>>>  wants to dicate things to me, it's because if I had
>>>  been thinking about
>>>  what is good for us rather than me.
>>>
>>>  3) I was wrong, I will admit it.
>>>
>>>  4) She told me that if I wanted the car, I could keep
>>>  it if it was what
>>>  I wanted, and she meant it.
>>>
>>>  5) We tried to return the vehicle.  There is no 72
>>>  hours right of
>>>  rescission on automobiles.
>>>
>>>  5) We were going to trade it for something else (the
>>>  dealer gave us
>>>  this choice) but there was nothing else in my price
>>>  range that I liked.
>>>
>>>  6) We've decided to keep it and sell it outright.  I
>>>  feel that I can
>>>  get at least what I put into the vehicle since it's
>>>  below blue book.
>>>
>>>  7) I'm taking her out tonight to Carraba's for some
>>>  delicious mussels.
>>>
>>>  8) She's a wonderful, understanding person.  She was
>>>  just extremely
>>>  upset that I did this without her input.
>>>
>>>  9) I actually think she likes the car, now that she's
>>>  seen it, and she
>>>  will like it more after I take her out in it tonight.
>>>
>>>  10)  Thank for your input.
>>>
>>>  11)  This car is WAY faster than Tim's.
>>>
>>>  - Matt Small
>>>
>>>  On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 11:20 AM, Andre
>>>  Turrettini wrote:
>>>
>>>  > This is true.  Matt, Can you give us more insight
>>>  > into her stong
>>>  > response?
>>>  > DRE
>>>  >
>>>  > -----Original Message-----
>>>  > From: dana tierney [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>>  > Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 8:18 AM
>>>  > To: CF-Community
>>>  > Subject: Re:I think I'm in trouble
>>>  >
>>>  > He's right tho, if my SO tried to dictate the car I
>>>  > could buy I would
>>>  > run
>>>  > like hell in the other direction. Unless he was
>>>  > buying it for me; at
>>>  > that
>>>  > point he deserves some say. Sorry Matt but imho this
>>>  > is a major red
>>>  > flag
>>>  > which you ignore at your peril.
>>>  >
>>>  > Dana
>>>  >
>>>  > >Mike,
>>>  > >  You're either single or have the most tolerant
>>>  > >  wife on the planet!
>>>  > >"perhaps the marriage is just not meant to be"...
>>>  > >you're killing me,
>>>  > Man.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >~Simon
>>>  > >
>>>  > >Simon Horwith
>>>  > >CTO, Etrilogy Ltd.
>>>  > >Member of Team Macromedia
>>>  > >Macromedia Certified Instructor
>>>  > >Certified Advanced ColdFusion MX Developer
>>>  > >Certified Flash MX Developer
>>>  > >CFDJList - List Administrator
>>>  > >http://www.how2cf.com/
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  -----Original Message-----
>>>  > >  From: Haggerty, Mike [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>>  > >  Sent: 29 December 2003 15:23
>>>  > >  To: CF-Community
>>>  > >  Subject: RE: I think I'm in trouble
>>>  > >
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  Keep the car, give it a name, add nitrous,
>>>  > >  flourescent lights, a
>>>  > tricked
>>>  > >  out odometer and racing seats. Put a big sticker
>>>  > >  on the back
>>>  > windshield
>>>  > >  indicating you are part of a street racing team.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  What was the name of the car Will Farrell's
>>>  > >  character drove in Old
>>>  > >  School? If your wife can't deal with you having a
>>>  > >  cool ride, which
>>>  > is a
>>>  > >  part of your identify, perhaps the marriage is
>>>  > >  just not meant to be.
>>>  > >  Imagine what life will be like in 20 years when
>>>  > >  she becomes
>>>  > hysterical
>>>  > >  over a bunch of doylies over or something - you do
>>>  > >  not want that.
>>>  > It's
>>>  > >  going to be lemonade and cucumber sandwiches
>>>  > >  instead of beer and
>>>  > chicken
>>>  > >  wings, and that ain't right. Put your foot down
>>>  > >  and keep your
>>>  > dignity.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  M
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  -----Original Message-----
>>>  > >  From: Matthew Small
>>>  > >  [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>>  > >  Sent: Saturday, December 27, 2003 11:43 PM
>>>  > >  To: CF-Community
>>>  > >  Subject: I think I'm in trouble
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  I pulled a boner today.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  I'm in the market for a new vehicle, since the
>>>  > >  truck that I'm
>>>  > driving,
>>>  > >  while good looking and well running, has 173,000
>>>  > >  miles on it.  It's
>>>  > a
>>>  > >  1995 Chevy Silverado, 4x4. My fiancee loves the
>>>  > >  thing, thinks it's
>>>  > the
>>>  > >  manliest truck on this earth. For the record,
>>>  > >  she's 23, I'm 31, we
>>>  > >  don't live together, and she's never had a FT job
>>>  > >  before since she
>>>  > just
>>>  > >  graduated Grad School with an MBA. She's a lovely
>>>  > >  girl, just a
>>>  > little
>>>  > >  idealistic sometimes due to youth.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  So I go out today, just browsing and this car
>>>  > >  catches my eye - it'
>>>  > s a
>>>  > >  2001 Mustang GT.  Worse yet, it's a Mustang GT
>>>  > >  Bullitt - a Steve
>>>  > >  McQueen style race car. So I test drive it, am
>>>  > >  unnaturally scared to
>>>  > >  death of it, and then buy it.  I figure since it's
>>>  > >  only got 38,000
>>>  > on
>>>  > >  the odometer, that it will get getter mileage than
>>>  > >  the giant truck,
>>>  > and
>>>  > >  that she also has a Mustang that this will
>>>  > >  resonant well with the
>>>  > >  fiancee.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  Anyway, I proceed to call her after I buy it and
>>>  > >  she starts crying
>>>  > >  because I got rid of the truck.  She's a bit
>>>  > >  emotional too
>>>  > sometimes.
>>>  > >  Please don't get the wrong idea, she's great, but
>>>  > >  emotional about
>>>  > >  things sometimes.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  Let me tell you a little bit more about the car -
>>>  > >  it's unbelievably
>>>  > >  fast.  I don't know the stats, but the car has
>>>  > >  some sort of mod
>>>  > chip in
>>>  > >  it that pushes it to 305 HP.  It's a five speed
>>>  > >  ass haulin' trip to
>>>  > the
>>>  > >  hospital then to jail for wreckless driving.  I
>>>  > >  admit that I'm a
>>>  > freak
>>>  > >  for speed sometimes.  This is without doubt the
>>>  > >  fastest car I've
>>>  > ever
>>>  > >  been in.  Anyway, it's a cool little thing with
>>>  > >  all of the bells and
>>>  > >  whistles.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  We're not going to have any children soon, so that
>>>  > >  not an issue, but
>>>  > >  she did say that she thought I was going to get
>>>  > >  something more
>>>  > "yuppie"
>>>  > >  - like an SUV or BMW or something like that.
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  Anyway, that's the boner.  I think I'm going to
>>>  > >  take the car back
>>>  > >  tomorrow morning and get the truck back. Any
>>>  > >  comments from my
>>>  > friends
>>>  > >  on the list?
>>>  > >
>>>  > >  - Matt Small
>>>  > >
>>>  >   _____
>>>  <image.tiff>
>>>  >
>>>  >
>>>
>
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