There are all kinds of misunderstandings that can slip into real-life
relationships, just as in cyber ones, if they aren't talked out at the time.
When this happens in real life, people build resentments, and in marriages, an
accumulation of enough of these leads to a divorce. It's hard on a divorced
couple, though, if they work in the same place or in some other way have to
keep seeing each other.
Judy and Turq are kind of like that couple who have to keep seeing each
other. They keep getting triggered by each other, because there's so much past
between them that never got resolved. It's hard on the co-workers who hate to
see the fighting all the time, but the fighting is understandable. It's a tough
situation.
I see you two guys as polar opposites, with Turq being broad, freewheeling
and expansive, never liking to nail things down because of his primary value
for complete freedom. I see Judy as careful, exact, precise and astute --
accuracy as in "truth" for her is a primary value.
These tendencies are both beautiful but they're polar opposites. Precision
curtails expansion. Expansiveness breaks the bounds of precision. Both
complement and qualify each other, keeping one another in harmony with all that
is. People with primary values like Turq's and Judy's usually wind up being
bitter enemies or passionate lovers, often both.
I like the both of you, because I adore both sets of qualities. We all have
them, but you two demonstrate them to the max, which is what makes you so
appealing and colorful. You'll probably never be able to de-personalize the
conflict and take it philosophically, on the level of polar opposites in the
universe, but maybe thinking about it from that perspective can ease the pain a
little that you sometimes feel from each other.
You guys rock. Both of you!
- Bronte
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