--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Angela Mailander <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Turq, > I'm new to this forum, but I'm interested in this fascinating feud. Are you really serious about Never?
Angela, if you check out his posts about us, I think you'll see pretty quickly that while he has a desperate need for others to believe he's not taking us seriously--maybe even for himself to believe it--it's a crock. That goes for anyone else who confronts him; it's not just us. Barry (Turq) goes to great lengths to pretend he's a carefree and happy-go-luck guy, but in fact he himself has terrible anger issues. He's desperately angry with himself but constantly takes it out on other people. Basically, at least in terms of what he posts (it's possible he's different in everyday life), he's a phony. There's a perfectly fine human being underneath all the armor, but for some reason, probably long ago, he was made to believe that person was unacceptable, and he's spent the rest of his life constructing a false persona to hide his real self. Such a tactic never really works, of course, and you see evidence of how dysfunctional it is in his hypocrisy and compulsive dishonesty. Disagreement and criticism terrify him because they both threaten his armor and validate his opinion of his real self as unacceptable. He's in an awful bind, and one has to feel sorry for him on some level, but he's so consistently viciously obnoxious it tends to overwhelm any compassion one might feel. One just wants him to drop the act and be authentic, and the only way to do that seems to be to keep pounding away at the armor in the hope that one day it'll just give way. That's a quick summary...
