--- In [email protected], "Xenophaneros Anartaxius" <anartaxius@...> wrote: > > Emotional buttons are not real buttons, it is just a term > to describe a person's conditioned responses to a situation.
<duh> My point, and Emily's, was that Ann's "lethal" and my "death threat" were both metaphorical in the same sense that "buttons" is metaphorical. > We all have conditioned responses; some hard-wired, other learned. Our > nervous systems are stimulus response machines. These conditioned responses > have an intellectual component, and an emotional component. It is the > emotional component that causes us problems in interpreting what is going on > if a conditioned response is in play. The trick is to realise that one of > these 'buttons' in us has been pushed and to notice what is happening, it is > just a process of being more aware. This helps to dissolve or lessen the > conditioned response. > > This is basically a process of accommodation which refers to part of the > adaptation process. The process of accommodation involves altering one's > existing schemas, or ideas, as a result of new information or new > experiences. You must accommodate this new learning in order to ensure that > what's inside your head conforms to what's outside in the real world. > > This requires one step back from one's own reaction, at least partially, > without getting sucked in whole hog. For practice you can watch a newscaster > whose views you despise, or listen to speeches by a candidate who is in a > party different from yours. > > Button pushing happens when we get challenged. Barry and Curtis are good > vehicles for this because they have an independence of thought that on this > forum at least, is not universally popular. And Barry seems to have developed > an additional career as a professional button tester. In order to get one's > button's pushed, it is not necessary that the stimulus be true or false, it > just has to trigger the conditioned response. > > --- In [email protected], Emily Reyn <emilymae.reyn@> wrote: > > > > Speaking of dramatic, Barry's titles usually speak for themselves. Â My > > perception was that Ann used "lethal" in a literary context to describe > > Curtis's ability to creatively, dramatically, and incisively "skewer" said > > recipients he feels a perceived slight from, when he chooses - astute > > fellow that he is described as. Â Curtis, you are a creative writer, no > > doubt. The "power of words" in play.... Â > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: authfriend <jstein@> > > To: [email protected] > > Sent: Sunday, April 1, 2012 8:09 AM > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] ANOTHER DEATH THREAT (was Re: Fat, old drama > > queens...) > > > > > > Â > > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > <snip> > > > And I think that both Ann and Judy are doing the same thing > > > on FFL, and that few other than Curtis, myself, and AZ are > > > calling them on it. There was never any "death threat." > > > Curtis's words were just words, not "lethal." And the > > > histionics of a couple of women whose aversions cause them > > > to get their emotional buttons pushed rather easily are > > > never going to make any of these claims any less histrionic, > > > or true. > > > > Barry always has been metaphorically challenged. He thinks > > the people here he doesn't like (mostly women) have real > > buttons. > > >
