--- In [email protected], doctordumbass@... <no_reply@...> wrote: > > Will you be my relationship coach, pretty please?? LOL
Al lyou have to remember is that blue and yellow make green, red and white make pink, blue and brown make purple and so on. > > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > --- In [email protected], navashok <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > <snip> > > > > I actually look upon this as a fairly healthy and some- > > > > what more evolved way of dealing with sex and romance. > > > > Who, after all, would ever want to hook up with someone > > > > who has all these fantasies of the perfect lover or mate > > > > running around in their heads, so much so that they LONG > > > > for them or develop an abstract NEED for them? I don't > > > > know about you, but every time I've run into a woman > > > > like that and been foolish enough to get involved with > > > > them anyway, I've learned very quickly that they were > > > > never relating to me *at all*, just to the fantasies > > > > in their heads. > > > > > > Great post Barry. > > > > Thanks for noticing, as opposed to some who have a > > tendency to read anything I write through aversion- > > colored glasses. :-) > > > > > As a friend of mine said it recently: if you date, it's > > > not just a nice woman, but a whole set of Samskaras, > > > desires, ideations, well Karma, and at some point, you > > > ask yourself, if you really want all of that. > > > > Exactly. The odd Rama - Fred Lenz guy I studied with > > for a while described interpersonal interactions as > > "touching and merging auras." Imagine a field around > > yourself as a luminous sphere, 2-5 meters in diameter. > > Now imagine inviting someone else -- who has an equal > > aura -- *into* yours. That's what you do when you focus > > intently on someone else, and even more so when you get > > involved with them. > > > > Although I certainly don't buy all that this guy said > > about the nature of relationships, I still like the > > "merging auras" metaphor because it allows a completely > > blameless view of why some relationships don't work out. > > > > A guy and a gal (or some other permutation best left to > > individual imagination) hook up, romantically and sex- > > ually. On their own, their auras are one predominant > > "color" (really combination of colors and energies), but > > put two of them together, and it's like the "color wheels" > > your kindergarten teacher used to use to explain the > > concept of color. Take a yellow circle of celophane > > in one hand and a blue one in the other, and they have > > their own distinct colors. But cross the two circles > > and you suddenly have a third color, green. > > > > That was Rama's view of what happens in relationships, > > and why one should never blame the other party if a > > relationship doesn't work out. Sometimes when auras > > merge, the resulting color is pleasing. Sometimes it > > isn't. No harm, no foul, either way. The secret to > > having relationships is just in recognizing when the > > aura you've chosen to merge with yours is not produc- > > ing a "color" that is equally pleasing to both parties. > > > > Color me a cultist (and some possibly will), but I > > think he might have been onto something with this > > metaphor. I like it because of its "no fault cause." > > Deciding to share another person's "whole set of > > Samskaras, desires, ideations, and well, Karma" > > CHANGES your own. Sometimes the result works, > > sometimes it doesn't. No harm, no foul, either > > way. > > > > But *recognizing* the "inharmonious color mergings," > > and choosing not to pursue them, that can be of value. > > Learning to recognize such things before they even > > start, that can be even more valuable. :-) > > >
