Don't you just love it when the first word of your post is a typo?
--- In [email protected], "Ann" <awoelflebater@...> wrote:
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> --- In [email protected], doctordumbass@ <no_reply@> wrote:
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> > Will you be my relationship coach, pretty please?? LOL
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> Al lyou have to remember is that blue and yellow make green, red and white
> make pink, blue and brown make purple and so on.
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> > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote:
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> > > --- In [email protected], navashok <no_reply@> wrote:
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> > > > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote:
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> > > > <snip>
> > > > > I actually look upon this as a fairly healthy and some-
> > > > > what more evolved way of dealing with sex and romance.
> > > > > Who, after all, would ever want to hook up with someone
> > > > > who has all these fantasies of the perfect lover or mate
> > > > > running around in their heads, so much so that they LONG
> > > > > for them or develop an abstract NEED for them? I don't
> > > > > know about you, but every time I've run into a woman
> > > > > like that and been foolish enough to get involved with
> > > > > them anyway, I've learned very quickly that they were
> > > > > never relating to me *at all*, just to the fantasies
> > > > > in their heads.
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> > > > Great post Barry.
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> > > Thanks for noticing, as opposed to some who have a
> > > tendency to read anything I write through aversion-
> > > colored glasses. :-)
> > >
> > > > As a friend of mine said it recently: if you date, it's
> > > > not just a nice woman, but a whole set of Samskaras,
> > > > desires, ideations, well Karma, and at some point, you
> > > > ask yourself, if you really want all of that.
> > >
> > > Exactly. The odd Rama - Fred Lenz guy I studied with
> > > for a while described interpersonal interactions as
> > > "touching and merging auras." Imagine a field around
> > > yourself as a luminous sphere, 2-5 meters in diameter.
> > > Now imagine inviting someone else -- who has an equal
> > > aura -- *into* yours. That's what you do when you focus
> > > intently on someone else, and even more so when you get
> > > involved with them.
> > >
> > > Although I certainly don't buy all that this guy said
> > > about the nature of relationships, I still like the
> > > "merging auras" metaphor because it allows a completely
> > > blameless view of why some relationships don't work out.
> > >
> > > A guy and a gal (or some other permutation best left to
> > > individual imagination) hook up, romantically and sex-
> > > ually. On their own, their auras are one predominant
> > > "color" (really combination of colors and energies), but
> > > put two of them together, and it's like the "color wheels"
> > > your kindergarten teacher used to use to explain the
> > > concept of color. Take a yellow circle of celophane
> > > in one hand and a blue one in the other, and they have
> > > their own distinct colors. But cross the two circles
> > > and you suddenly have a third color, green.
> > >
> > > That was Rama's view of what happens in relationships,
> > > and why one should never blame the other party if a
> > > relationship doesn't work out. Sometimes when auras
> > > merge, the resulting color is pleasing. Sometimes it
> > > isn't. No harm, no foul, either way. The secret to
> > > having relationships is just in recognizing when the
> > > aura you've chosen to merge with yours is not produc-
> > > ing a "color" that is equally pleasing to both parties.
> > >
> > > Color me a cultist (and some possibly will), but I
> > > think he might have been onto something with this
> > > metaphor. I like it because of its "no fault cause."
> > > Deciding to share another person's "whole set of
> > > Samskaras, desires, ideations, and well, Karma"
> > > CHANGES your own. Sometimes the result works,
> > > sometimes it doesn't. No harm, no foul, either
> > > way.
> > >
> > > But *recognizing* the "inharmonious color mergings,"
> > > and choosing not to pursue them, that can be of value.
> > > Learning to recognize such things before they even
> > > start, that can be even more valuable. :-)
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