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--- In [email protected], "Ann" <awoelflebater@...> wrote: > > > > --- In [email protected], doctordumbass@ <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > Will you be my relationship coach, pretty please?? LOL > > All you have to remember is that blue and yellow make green, red and white > make pink, blue and brown make purple and so on. > > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In [email protected], navashok <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > > > --- In [email protected], turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > > > <snip> > > > > > I actually look upon this as a fairly healthy and some- > > > > > what more evolved way of dealing with sex and romance. > > > > > Who, after all, would ever want to hook up with someone > > > > > who has all these fantasies of the perfect lover or mate > > > > > running around in their heads, so much so that they LONG > > > > > for them or develop an abstract NEED for them? I don't > > > > > know about you, but every time I've run into a woman > > > > > like that and been foolish enough to get involved with > > > > > them anyway, I've learned very quickly that they were > > > > > never relating to me *at all*, just to the fantasies > > > > > in their heads. > > > > > > > > Great post Barry. > > > > > > Thanks for noticing, as opposed to some who have a > > > tendency to read anything I write through aversion- > > > colored glasses. :-) > > > > > > > As a friend of mine said it recently: if you date, it's > > > > not just a nice woman, but a whole set of Samskaras, > > > > desires, ideations, well Karma, and at some point, you > > > > ask yourself, if you really want all of that. > > > > > > Exactly. The odd Rama - Fred Lenz guy I studied with > > > for a while described interpersonal interactions as > > > "touching and merging auras." Imagine a field around > > > yourself as a luminous sphere, 2-5 meters in diameter. > > > Now imagine inviting someone else -- who has an equal > > > aura -- *into* yours. That's what you do when you focus > > > intently on someone else, and even more so when you get > > > involved with them. > > > > > > Although I certainly don't buy all that this guy said > > > about the nature of relationships, I still like the > > > "merging auras" metaphor because it allows a completely > > > blameless view of why some relationships don't work out. > > > > > > A guy and a gal (or some other permutation best left to > > > individual imagination) hook up, romantically and sex- > > > ually. On their own, their auras are one predominant > > > "color" (really combination of colors and energies), but > > > put two of them together, and it's like the "color wheels" > > > your kindergarten teacher used to use to explain the > > > concept of color. Take a yellow circle of celophane > > > in one hand and a blue one in the other, and they have > > > their own distinct colors. But cross the two circles > > > and you suddenly have a third color, green. > > > > > > That was Rama's view of what happens in relationships, > > > and why one should never blame the other party if a > > > relationship doesn't work out. Sometimes when auras > > > merge, the resulting color is pleasing. Sometimes it > > > isn't. No harm, no foul, either way. The secret to > > > having relationships is just in recognizing when the > > > aura you've chosen to merge with yours is not produc- > > > ing a "color" that is equally pleasing to both parties. > > > > > > Color me a cultist (and some possibly will), but I > > > think he might have been onto something with this > > > metaphor. I like it because of its "no fault cause." > > > Deciding to share another person's "whole set of > > > Samskaras, desires, ideations, and well, Karma" > > > CHANGES your own. Sometimes the result works, > > > sometimes it doesn't. No harm, no foul, either > > > way. > > > > > > But *recognizing* the "inharmonious color mergings," > > > and choosing not to pursue them, that can be of value. > > > Learning to recognize such things before they even > > > start, that can be even more valuable. :-) > > > > > >
