I feel sad about all the people who have left FFL.
From: "[email protected] [FairfieldLife]"
<[email protected]>
To: [email protected]
Sent: Friday, November 28, 2014 4:09 PM
Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] Apologies...
Salyavin,
I do not think I have heard before the phrase 'professionally offended', what a
wonderful concept. I know people like this, where every other sentence is a
complaint about this or that in their lives, almost invariably what someone
else said or did. I tend to distinguish between real physical pain caused by
what people do, and mental pain caused by a person's conditioning. One can have
both compassion and empathy for the former, and up to a point compassion for
the latter, but self-inflicted mental pain gets no empathy from me; I have had
enough of my own in that department, and it was all on me, not someone else;
it's something a person can do something about to correct unless they are
totally incapable of listening and evaluating what other people say, in which
case they are logically a lost cause, and one must let them remain in hell.
As for Share's comment, if you do something that is wilfully malicious directed
at a person, apologies are in order if the other person has a real innocence
about them, which is usually not the case here on FFL where at least somewhere
in our lives we have been well seasoned ass-holes ourselves, and the case that
came up today was certainly in the latter category. If a person is 50 years old
and still a professional complainer, then they sure as hell have not been
living on Earth all this time, but living in some isolated mental fantasy world.
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---In [email protected], <[email protected]> wrote :
---In [email protected], <sharelong60@...> wrote :
Salyavin, if I apologize, what's included is an intention to avoid doing the
hurtful behavior in the future. Heck we all do awful stuff sometimes. I think
it's a valid part of relating to others that we acknowledge our part in their
upset and then soldier on.
Yes, the operative word here is IF. Trouble is these days a lot of people think
that because they are offended by something it automatically follows that
someone has done something wrong and should apologise. It seems like simply
being offended gives them the right to control other's opinions. Beats me.
From: salyavin808 <[email protected]>
To: [email protected]
Sent: Friday, November 28, 2014 12:40 PM
Subject: [FairfieldLife] Apologies...
"If I was the moderator of this group I'd put him on probation with a very
strong warning and demand an apology to the entire group and until he does I'd
limit his participation."
I don't know who wrote the above but it's a familiar part of modern life that
makes me scratch my head.
Seems like every day some celebrity/sports star/politician says some generally
inconsequential thing and immediately faces endless calls to apologise from the
massed ranks of the professionally offended. Usually via Twitter.
I don't know why they bother, because what good is an insincere apology? But
it's not really about that, what it's about is control and humiliation.
Everyone who complains knows that the apology is worth nothing and that people
don't really see the error of their ways and swiftly adopt the morals of the
herd, but if they can get someone to say what they want them to say it makes
them happy because their will has been bent and it acts as a warning to others.
Conform or we'll nag you endlessly. Is this the Internet as the great leveller,
or a growing inability of people to accept that not everyone sees the world the
same way they do?
I knew this girl who was a right arrogant bitch, whenever I complained about
her behaviour she'd just say "I'm sorry you're offended by what I said" which
is marvellous because it put all the blame on me for her attitude problem. And
she never understood why that drove me crazy, no empathy you see. I wonder what
that's like? But all I know is she wouldn't even think to wonder.
But if I ever annoy the world and the Twitteratti come banging on my cyber door
for an apology that's what I'd say and see if any of the dumb fucks notice
they've just been insulted further.
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