--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > > What's strange is that I forgot to mention codependency. > > > > > > > > > > > > Thanks for reminding me. > > > > > > > > > > Thanks for providing my morning chuckle, Vaj. :-) > > > > > > > > Says the comrade-in-arms while chuckling over jokes made at > > > > the expense of someone with suspected and/or diagnosed mental > > > > problems. > > > > > > Lighten up, Lawson. I was not laughing at the recent > > > jibes made here about your medical condition, and do > > > not support them. I was laughing at Judy's compulsive > > > rush to "defend" one of the people she views as a > > > "comrade-in-arms" and supporter. The 'codependency' > > > Vaj jokes about is on her side, not yours. I found > > > it funny, that's all. > > > > Actually, I took it as a jibe at me since "co"-dependency > > is, well, a two-way street. > > > > You can't have a single person be "co"-dependent. > > You are correct, of course. I was just chuckling > at the 'dependency' Vaj nailed in someone who has > made an Internet 'career' out of trying to convince > others that she's "right" and that they pretty much > have to agree with her. Once she recruits someone > into the position of agreeing with her fairly consis- > tently
In other words, *Lawson* is the co-dependent, the one who is manipulated and controlled (or the "toady," as Barry is fond of putting it). , then she seems compelled to dive in and > "support" them any time they get into a challenging > discussion. Actually this is bullshit, of course. I support people who appear to me to be the target of unfair criticism, whether I happen to agree with them or not. The idea of supporting someone just because it's the right thing to do is not in Barry's ethical vocabulary. It's bullshit as far as Lawson is concerned as well. He and I often disagree, but generally speaking we've been able to do so amicably because we respect each other. All I ask of anyone is sincerity, fairness, and intellectual (and factual) honesty, not agreement. Oh, yeah, and the notion that *Barry* is somehow above trying to convince people he's right is laughable. Try disagreeing with him sometime and see how he treats you. No matter how amicable you are in your disagreement, no matter how often Barry claims he's not trying to convince you of anything and doesn't care if you think differently, you'll be the target of his putdowns as long as the exchange continues. > > So it's a dependency issue, not a co-dependency > issue. Some people only feel comfortable about life > when others agree with them on their illusions about > it. Consensus reality, and all that... :-) > > > > I think you've been showing admirable restraint lately > > > with the knee-jerk posting thang, and have been putting > > > much more thought into your replies before pushing Send. > > > IMO, that's a good thing, both for yourself and for the > > > forum. > > > > Think of them as koans... There's far more thought in my > > one liners than in my stream-of-consciousness paragraphs... > > I had noticed that, actually. > ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Ever feel sad or cry for no reason at all? Depression. Narrated by Kate Hudson. http://us.click.yahoo.com/CQDrNC/ubOLAA/d1hLAA/0NYolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
