--- In [email protected], "Premanand Paul Mason"
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
>
> Well, for starters your posts always seem to me to be reasonably 
> polite, which is welcome. 

Thanks.

>I think if posters maintained politeness 
> that would be a really good way forward.
 
Politeness is usually a more effective way of communicating and
critiquing another's posts.  Peter once said  several years ago that I
was overly polite and admonished me to loosen up and speak my mind,not
to sugar coat it.  In my words he was saying, "be more neutrally
blunt."  He appears, at times, to not like the result of his advice, haha.

I don't find personal attacks that effective, though sometimes neutral
bluntness is called for.  Often some people view a neutral, perhaps
blunt at times, criticism of thier ideas, logic, facts or clarity as a
personal attacks. This is a cognitive error that appears to cause them
much grief. And results in their lashing out at the "phantom" attacker
-- when indeed there is no snake, only a rope. There is no personal
attack only a critique of their facts, logic, etc.

As an aside, I think the mistake of equating criticsm of ones ideas
and logic with "personal attacks" may have to do with a strong sense
of identity with ones thoughts, ideas, conclusions and intellectual
insights. Which becomes odd, though in my view a bit entertaining,
when such is exhibited with "one" claiming Atman realization, or even
Brahman realization. 

Ownership and identity with petty things like thoughts and
intellectual creations certainly wanes in the process of consciouness
waking up to itself. From day one of transcennding IME. To claim full
wakefulness of consiousness to itself, while still strongly exhibiting
strong attachment to and identity with ones mental processes and
output is an experiential oxymoron in my view and experience.







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