--- In [email protected], "wayback71" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
wrote:
>
> --- In [email protected], "authfriend" <jstein@> 
> wrote:> 
> > Just to reiterate, I have not the slightest intention
> > of refraining from commenting on Barry's posts when I
> > have something to say about them.  That would be absurd.
> > It's absurd that *he* has to refrain from commenting on
> > *my* posts.snipette What would end the "feud" is if he were to be 
> honest and fair in his posts--not just about me but in general--
> > and make an effort to maintain objectivity and refrain
> > from insults.
> 
> 1.Judy, you cannot change Barry's behavior (whether he is honest
> and fair or not, I do not know, nor care).

Obviously you don't care.

As I said earlier, that's how Bush and the Republican
Congress came into power in the U.S.: Those who knew
they were neither honest nor fair didn't care enough to
speak up.

And it isn't the only instance of dishonest and
unfair people taking power because nobody knew
enough or cared enough to call them on their
behavior.  It's happened throughout history and
been the cause of inestimable suffering.  It's
that *tendency* to allow dishonest people to get
away with their lies that I find frightening.

> Your replies do not change 
> his behavior in any way. Even after all these (10?) years of 
> trying, you seem to agree that Barry has not changed in the ways 
> you want him to.  YOU WILL NEVER NEVER CHANGE BARRY - GET IT???

I remain unconvinced that *group* pressure couldn't
bring Barry to see that his behavior is unacceptable.

> 2.  No one else here on FFL feels they need protection from Barry 
> and his "dishonesty."

It isn't about "protection."  It's about acceptable
behavior on a supposedly "spiritual" forum.

  We are all adults and can decide for 
> ourselves whether to believe BArry, take him seriously, or even
> read his posts.

You may not be in a position to decide whether to
believe him or take him seriously, actually.  There's
no reason to believe you are, moreover, unless you 
speak up when he lies or says something absurd.

  Your ideas and intellect are good, but being the FFL 
> monitor of truth and honesty is not needed. People are getting 
> fedup. Even if Barry "lies" about something, most people don't 
> really care much.

I find it appalling that people get fed up over
someone who calls a liar on his dishonesty, but
don't care about the lies.

> Eg: There is so much else in life to do and think 
> about - Barry is not my reference point and anything said here on 
> FFL by someone I don't have a face to face relationship with or
> else know to be compatible with me is not "really" important.

So we can all just lie ourselves blue in the face,
and it's fine with you because we're not your
reference point?

  You are 
> wasting your time, your hours, and your days if you are correcting 
> Barry's posts for anyone's sake but your own.  Editing is your 
> profession, I think?  And perhaps you really cannot stop yourelf.  
> If so, email Barry or spairegg on the side if you cannot bear to 
> stop, but FFL folks have spoken clearly and kindly - many have 
> asked you to stop this aspect of your posting. EDIT YOUR OWN POSTS, 
> PLEASE!

And again, it's fascinating that you all come down on
me instead of Barry, when he is clearly the instigator.

I don't think it's because you don't care about his
lies and his constant provocations, I think it's because
you're all (with a few exceptions) afraid of him.  You
don't want to risk becoming his targets by challenging
him.  So you come down on me instead.  At least you
know I won't tell lies about you.

> > It isn't a matter of "letting go of the past" when the
> > behavior of the past continues in the present.
> 
> You will not change Barry!!! The "behavior" of Barry's, as you see 
> it, will always continue.  Will yours?

If so, why on earth should you expect *mine* to change?







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