--- In [email protected], "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], "wayback71" <wayback71@> > wrote: > > 1.Judy, you cannot change Barry's behavior (whether he is honest > > and fair or not, I do not know, nor care). > > Obviously you don't care. > > As I said earlier, that's how Bush and the Republican > Congress came into power in the U.S.: Those who knew > they were neither honest nor fair didn't care enough to > speak up. > > And it isn't the only instance of dishonest and > unfair people taking power because nobody knew > enough or cared enough to call them on their > behavior. It's happened throughout history and > been the cause of inestimable suffering. It's > that *tendency* to allow dishonest people to get > away with their lies that I find frightening.
I agree with you about the importance of having the courage or interest to speak up when faced with dishonesty. I would choose you first for the team I am on when it comes to important situations. As you have said, Barry is not Bush and so I wonder - why expend your energy on such a small target? The principle is right, but the response seems too big for the target and its significance. > > Your replies do not change > > his behavior in any way. Even after all these (10?) years of > > trying, you seem to agree that Barry has not changed in the ways > > you want him to. YOU WILL NEVER NEVER CHANGE BARRY - GET IT??? > > I remain unconvinced that *group* pressure couldn't > bring Barry to see that his behavior is unacceptable. One piece of wisdom that I keep getting reminded of in my 50 plus years is that you cannot change someone else.I believe this to be true, you don't. OK > > 2. No one else here on FFL feels they need protection from Barry > > and his "dishonesty." > > It isn't about "protection." It's about acceptable > behavior on a supposedly "spiritual" forum. Yes, I guess the posts of Barry's that I have read don't seem so bad, as far as I know. You may know better and need to correct somethings from time to time. But constant correction means, to me, that you should not read his posts. If they are hopelessly and constantly distorted they should not take up so much of your time or thoughts.And I do think that all the samrt people here on FFL will figure it out for themselves, over time. You have made a valiant fight in a cause you consider worthwhile. IMO, you are now stuck in the editing role. Spiritually, better to be more in the now of things and to let Barry's "problem," which is unchangable, fester on its own. None of us will be hurt. > You are > > wasting your time, your hours, and your days if you are correcting > > Barry's posts for anyone's sake but your own. Editing is your > > profession, I think? And perhaps you really cannot stop yourelf. > > If so, email Barry or spairegg on the side if you cannot bear to > > stop, but FFL folks have spoken clearly and kindly - many have > > asked you to stop this aspect of your posting. EDIT YOUR OWN POSTS, > > PLEASE! > > And again, it's fascinating that you all come down on > me instead of Barry, when he is clearly the instigator. > > I don't think it's because you don't care about his > lies and his constant provocations, I think it's because > you're all (with a few exceptions) afraid of him. You > don't want to risk becoming his targets by challenging > him. So you come down on me instead. At least you > know I won't tell lies about you. Here you are wrong, simply wrong. I am not afraid of Barry, I could care less about Barry or his opinion of me. This conversation is all about many many people here wanting the feud to stop since it bores us and takes up FFL space and is frankly irritating.We want to be able to read your posts without the feud stuff thrown in. As for your last sentence above, I do trust that you will be honest and that is a good thing. But maybe be less vigilant here? Having your hypervigilance is like going out to dinner with an accountant who pulls out the calculator at the end of the meal and tallies up each person's bill to the penny. Great skill in the office, but not at dinner. We want to go out to dinner with you, but......... snip > > You will not change Barry!!! The "behavior" of Barry's, as you see > > it, will always continue. Will yours? > > If so, why on earth should you expect *mine* to change? Touche ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Join modern day disciples reach the disfigured and poor with hope and healing http://us.click.yahoo.com/lMct6A/Vp3LAA/i1hLAA/UlWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
