You're more than welcome to set up a forum, blog, another email list.
Anything you want. Host it in the cloud, host it on a Commodore 64 in
your basement. Whatever makes you happy. And, please let us know about
it .. once. Some of us may want to join you.

Make up your own rules to keep things civil, have no rules at all.
It's yours, it's your choice.

This email list, however, is not yours. The rules on this list were
not pulled out of the air randomly by Anestis, rip, or me. It's not
our list. Every single rule we follow exists for a reason.

Correcting someone who makes a mistake is an act of kindness. The fact
that someone is deeply offended at being corrected is quite simply
backwards. And lashing out at being corrected is beyond rude.

The polite thing to do when entering a new community, making a mistake
and being corrected is to apologize, ask where to find the rules of
the community (assuming they weren't provided) and move on. A thread
should last only a few posts. The initial post, a couple reminders, an
apology and a "no problem, welcome to the list" or three. You're going
to get a couple reminders, deal with it. It's an email list, not a
forum, and email isn't delivered instantaneously, despite your
experience to the contrary. Early responders aren't going realize that
someone else posted a response first. It's just the nature of the
beast.

Putting the blame for extending threads, for days on end, on the
people trying to be helpful is also backwards. The blame lies entirely
on the rude individuals lashing out at being corrected. Instead of
apologizing and defusing the situation, they lash out, responding to
each and every "attack".

We go through the entire cycle nearly every time. It's the same litany
of nonsense: the "list cops" are rude, the rules are stupid, etc, etc.
No, the "list cops" are trying to be helpful. And the fact that you
can't comprehend a reason for a rule makes you somehow right, is
what's rude. Calling someone a Nazi, when they're only trying to be
helpful, is rude.

This community is in the vicinity of 20 years old. And quite frankly,
it's amazing we've lasted this long without a list of rules rivaling
the works of Shakespeare. There aren't many of them, but they work
well. The links have been provided over and over, and can be again
upon request. They're relatively simple, and following them is the
polite thing to do.

Bret

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