It's clear you were the best daughter any mother could hope to have, Lynne. I'm so sorry for the pain that you and your mother went through. Life can be so hard, and so very hard to make sense of, especially when our loved ones suffer so terribly. I understand what you're saying about knowing you did all you could. That's the way I feel about my dad who passed away last April after a long and brave struggle with cancer. I also was with him when he drew his last breath, and his death had a profound effect on me....made me realize even more the importance of making the most of each and every day---what's that saying? "Live as though your days are numbered--because they are!" Whenever my first cat, Katyis, comes to me for a cuddle when I'm busy in the kitchen---as is his habit!---I put aside what I'm doing and we have our cuddle. I don't want to look back on our time together when he's gone, and regret missed opportunities. I think I will feel about my Katyis the way you feel about your Chuckie. Kerry _____
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Lynne Sent: Friday, February 15, 2008 7:13 AM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: for Lynne - good stories This may be very true Jane. On the other hand it has crossed my mind that I personally am being taught some kind of lesson about the need to be sad. My mom passed away last year after a horrible 5 years of Alzheimer's. The final two years she was in a nursing home and the deterioration over that period of time was dramatic, to the point that one day when I went to visit her I walked right past her because she looked nothing like my mom. The night she died, my sister, brother and I stayed until her last breath. My siblings broke down crying but not me. I believe I made a sigh of relief and I have never shed a tear over her passing. I think it's because I had to be responsible for her care and I know I did all I could. The other two did little for her. I hope that when BooBoo's time comes I can let go as easily as I did with my mom but I doubt it. With these little guys we have to make the decisions about when they go. I won't let him suffer but it will be hard. We held our big Chuckie when he had to be euthanized, drove him home in the middle of the night and buried him in the pouring rain. That was 20 years ago and I still choke up when I think of him. Lynne ----- Original Message ----- From: Jane Lyons <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [email protected] Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2008 10:19 PM Subject: Re: for Lynne - good stories Great Lynne ...that would be wonderful. You've found a good vet! Not too long ago, when I was as 'shell shocked' as you are now, a woman (Nina) who was on this list told me that it is her belief that these Felv kitties are often 'sent' to us to teach us how to let go of our fear of loss, and how to live as they do, in the moment. I've found it to be so true. I hope with some time, you'll feel that way about BooBoo. It will get better. 0It sounds as though you and your husband are going to give him every thing you can to fight this battle. He's so lucky to have found you. Jane On Feb 14, 2008, at 8:30 PM, Lynne wrote: Jane, I think that's a wonderful idea. I was telling our vet about "the good stories" tonight and he was very interested. We've determined this is a really terrific guy we've found. He's attempting to adopt out a just diagnosed FelV cat because as he confided to us tonight, he just loves this cat and doesn't want to see her put down. Like I mentioned, if that is what the owners decide to do, we've told him we will take her. Lynne ----- Original Message ----- From: Jane Lyons <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2008 8:05 PM Subject: Re: for Lynne - good stories I've just printed out a bunch of copies of "the good stories". I'm going to give them to my vet when I stop in to get DMG tomorrow. Vets should have hopeful stories to share with clients who were as devastated as we all were. Thanks again, Kerry. It was so good of you to put these together. Jane On Feb 14, 2008, at 11:49 AM, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: Kerry, Thanks for adding the stories as I remember them when I joined many moons ago. It is refreshing to see this again. Still say that when the cure or vaccine to help the kitties I will eat a piece of Cheesecake as part of celebrating. (I can't stand the stuff...yuck) But will do it for the ones we have lost and for the current ones battling this horrible disease. The day will come when a cure will happen but not soon enough for me. Bless all of you of caring and loving your Felv kitties! 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