talk to her, and let her know that she doesn't have to stay here for you. people and critters do, i believe, often stay longer than they might ordinarily, to try to protect us. i always tell mine that it's okay if their job here is complete, that they can cross the bridge, and mommy will be alright. (of course, five minutes later, i'm crying in their fur saying, "mommy's not ready!" but they understand my human frailty.) if they know it's okay for them to leave when it's their time, they WILL let you know.
i think that every one of us has allowed a beloved one to stay longer, to be treated longer, than was optimum for the traveller: and most of us have learned to feel the difference between, "is this for me, or for them?" ask her to tell you when it's her time, and listen with her heart, not yours. it's the last thanks we can give them, the gift of a loving farewell. i can't remember the quote exactly, but i found it many years ago, and it's stayed with me: that it's better to send them home one day too soon, than five minutes too late. (i, of course, talk to them about the cloak room at the bridge where there are racks and racks of new, healthy bodies, in every breed and color and pattern and mixture--that they can pick out a new body where everything works, and exchange it anytime they want....) MC -- Spay & Neuter Your Neighbors! Maybe That'll Make The Difference.... MaryChristine Special-Needs Coordinator, Purebred Cat Breed Rescue (www.purebredcats.org) Member, SCAT (Special-Cat Action Team) _______________________________________________ Felvtalk mailing list Felvtalk@felineleukemia.org http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/listinfo/felvtalk_felineleukemia.org