Sally,
I keep reading about Animal communicators. You with
Jasmine Indra, Nina with Patricia Schaller, Belinda
posted the yahoo group animalcommunication, and even
Terri and Tamara second the suggestion.
However, all of my credit cards are currently maxed
out due the renovation and maintenance of this
enormous ordeal and I have not been able to locate an
animal communicator nearby.
I reside in Southern Indiana. 30 miles east of
Evansville, IN.
Being how I live in the country, I already have a
regular monthly long-distance telephone bill. With the
staggering debt the damages have cost me, how will I
ever be able to afford long-distance phone call to Los
Angeles California or to Maine?
Not only that but, also afford the 15 minutes: $25, 30
minutes: $40 or 60 minutes: $75 sessions with Patricia
Schaller or the 30 minutes: $50 and 60 minutes:
$100.00 sessions with Jasmine Indra?
At this time, an animal communicator just is not in
the budget. I guess I should have contacted them first
before all the substantial damage was done. Thanks
anyway.
Besides:
1.) Animal Communicators
2.) Prescription for Fluoxetine (kitty Prozac)
3.) Having his thyroid and parathyroid evaluated
4.) Disposable incontinence pads
5.) Kitty diapers
6.) "Cat Attract"
7.) Use different types of cleaning solutions
8.) Throwing Dartagnan outside in the winter weather
9.) Having him PTS
Are there any other ideas that I have not yet tried?
I sincerely appreciate everyone taking the time and
effort to reply to my crisis. It really means a lot to
me. You would think that with twenty-six (26) years of
experience with felines I would be able to solve this
on my own. Unfortunately, Dartagnan's unique case is a
first for me.
I have experience with inappropriate elimination,
spraying/marking, behavioral displacement and
territorial aggression just not to this extreme.
Everything that has worked in the past, for me, is NOT
working now. I simply just do not get it.
Lora
--- [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
Dear Lora:
If there were a Nobel Prize for Tolerance, you would
be my nominee.
But keep in mind that there are people who will, for
whatever reason, abuse and take advantage of those
they claim to love and some cats will do the same.
If you watch Dr. Phil on TV, you will have seen more
than one parent be told that indulging children and
not setting limits and consequences for bad behavior
has predictable results. Therein may lie Dartagnan's
problem. Or, it is possible Dartagnan is trying to
tell you he would rather be an outdoor kitty who can
spray wherever he pleases without consequences.
I would have called an animal communicator LONG ago
to have a talk with Dartagnan...long before replacing
expensive carpeting and electrical shorts. Since
humans don't speak Catese and most of us are not
psychically endowed, through their behavior is the
only way our cats can let us know what they are
thinking.
My take is that there is a reason when cats behave so
badly and that usually they are trying to tell us
something. They do realize that going outside
the box is a way to get our attention in a hurry and
it seems that Dartagnan has been screaming at you for
a very long time.
Bless you for loving him so much you have been willing
to make a valiant effort and go to such great lengths
to deal with the problem, but what you have done is
"enabling" in a way. You just keep cleaning up after
him and repair the damage from the havoc he
wreaks. It would seem the reason for WHY he is
spraying and continuing to do so with such abandon
remains unaddressed.
Since you've had Dartagnan evaluated medically, and
that is not an issue, it would seem there must be an
emotional basis for what he is doing. It is possible
that Dartagnan is spraying just because he LIKES doing
it and you have not made it clear to him what a fine
line he is walking.
And perhaps therein lies the problem. You have been
TOO tolerant of such behavior and should not have
exercised the patience of a saint. You need to make
it clear to Dartagnan that if this behavior persists
you are at the end of your patience and his spirit
will be sent to the other side prematurely via the
long sleep. If he is a healthy two year old, I doubt
Dartagnan would welcome that eventuality.
Before taking such a drastic step, please tell
Dartagnan that and give him a chance to tell you his
side of the story.
Not all animal communicators are as expensive as
Sonja Fitzpatrick, who appears on Animal Planet and is
in vogue with the Hollywood stars for consulting
with their pets. A consultation is usually no more
expensive than a call to the vet and sometimes less.
Nina gave you the name of a friend of hers who does
animal communication. I can also give you the name of
one I have worked with on a number of occasions, and
knowing how desperate my financial siutation is,
she has even helped me with furkids crossing the
bridge at no charge.
Her name is Jasmine Indra and she's now living in
Maine, though as Nina mentioned the location of the AC
or the pet is not an issue as telepathic consultations
are usually done by phone. Jasmine's email is --
[EMAIL PROTECTED]
-- and her home phone is (207) 443-1125, or if you
need to reach her urgently, her cell phone is (510)
325-2062.
Another possibility is a student of animal
communication who recently helped me find my youngest
furkid who managed to escape from the house and was
missing for a day and part of the night. She is
doing an internship with the Assisi Foundation and
will lend her assistance at no charge in exchange for
an evaluation to be submitted to her instructor.
With your permission I will send her a message with
your email address and if she has time and the
inclination she could contact you.
Basically what an AC needs to know is where the pet is
located and a description of the animal so they can
verify they have connected with the correct animal.
Another listmember -- I think it was Lisa
([EMAIL PROTECTED]) also mentioned a while back that
there is a Yahoo group of mostly amateur animal
comunicators but a few pros also contribute and you
may be able to get some help that way.
The well known AC, Raphaela Pope, related in her book
"Wisdom of the Animals" a case study about a cat who
insisted on going outside her litter box despite
her guardian's best efforts to cater to her whims
with regard to numerous boxes in different places,
various litter types, etc.
After a conversation with the cat, Raphaela suggested
to her guardian that she needed to get firm with her
cat, who just wasn't taking the situation seriously
and rather had the idea she could do as she pleased
and was loved so much there would be no negative
consequences.
Raphaela told the cat that if she didn't mend her
ways, her guardian was going to banish her to the
garage, and the kitty's reply was "No way, my mom
would NEVER do that to me."
Raphaela advised the cat's guardian to exercise some
"tough love" and if the cat went outside her litterbox
again, she needed to put her in the garage.
The woman protested, but did as Raphaela instructed
and the diva kitty was put in the garage.
It only took one day of that and the cat reformed her
behavior.
I don't think I could have been as anywhere near as
patient with Dartagnan as you have been, not that I
have any nice furniture to protect, but I certainly
could not have afforded to replace carpeting, etc.
If I lived in a safe environment, I would have
banished Dartagnan to being an outdoor kitty,
if not I would have built an outdoor enclosure for
him to inhabit.
I do have one kitty, and indoor princess with a lot
of cattitude, who insists on peeing one or two places
in the house but I can't put her outside or my two
alpa males will beat up on her. So I have just put
down plastic and then put a towel I can wash or a
scrap of carpeting I can toss on top.
I used to have one FEMALE cat who liked to spray but
usually did it in places that weren't a problem to
clean up, except one. The house had an old floor
furnace in the living room with a metal grate and she
would back up and spray the grate, but it drip down
onto the furnace and didn't show. I didn't realize
what she was doing until cold weather came and I
turned on the furnace and you can only imagine what a
horrendous smell there was!
After that I routinely cleaned the grate before
turning the furnace on.
I do hope you can find out the reason for Dartagnan's
truly excessive spraying and are able to negotiate a
solution that you can both live with.
But, if worse comes to worse and you do decide the
only solution is to have him euthanized, I would
second Nina's motion -- PLEASE don't just turn him
over to a shelter to be PTS.
If you love him enough to have done all that you have
done so far trying to cope, don't put him through the
trauma of being sent to a strange place, surrounded by
strangers who may not be gentle and caring to be PTS
in a perhaps less than loving and humane manner.
Sincerely, Sally in San Jose
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