Apparently, Bill, you and I read Ray differently.

Selma


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Subject: Re: [Futurework] Future plans


> Selma,
> 
> Your letter is well written and points are well made. 
> My guess, however, is that Ray may feel a bit under-
> appreciated in your denying that his is "intimidatory"
> 
> Bill
> 
> On Mon, 30 Jun 2003 14:46:42 -0400 "Selma Singer"
> <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> writes:
> > 
> > ----- Original Message ----- 
> > From: "Keith Hudson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> > To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> > Sent: Monday, June 30, 2003 10:29 AM
> > Subject: [Futurework] Future plans
> > 
> > 
> > Keith wrote:
> > 
> >  I  am also completely, thoroughly and utterly tired of constantly 
> > seeing
> > > postings about his ancestors or his emotive ravings about the 
> > particular
> > > sort of music he likes.
> > 
> > Selma:
> > 
> > Just for the record, I would like to state that Ray's discussion of 
> > his
> > ancestors has been, for me, enlightening and profoundly insightful.
> > 
> > There appears to be some agreement among some on this list ( you can 
> > see
> > that I am choosing my words carefully) that Western society (and all 
> > those
> > societies presently becoming 'Westernized' or Americanized' ) are 
> > terribly
> > deficient in a spiritual base of some sort; that a center of 
> > morality and
> > humanity just doesn't seem to be there and some will argue, like me, 
> > that
> > this is at the base of most if not all of our problems.
> > 
> > Ray's discussion of his ancestors is never just for the sake of 
> > discussing
> > his ancestors. It is always in a larger context of trying to reason 
> > out what
> > we can learn from culture(s) that do have a spiritual base and a 
> > moral
> > center and to compare the behavior in those cultures
> > as it contrasts with our own.
> > 
> > As for Ray's 'emotive ravings about the particular sort of music he 
> > likes'-
> > those discussions  also are never for the reason of letting us know 
> > what he
> > likes or trying to persuade us to like what he likes- they are also, 
> > always,
> > in a context of trying to illustrate some larger principle that is 
> > important
> > for us to look at if we are to have some important understandings of 
> > what is
> > wrong-and perhaps, even, what may be right with our own culture.
> > 
> > It seems to me to be terribly pathetic and illustrative of precisely 
> > that
> > lack of moral and spiritual understanding I speak of above,  that 
> > Ray's
> > discussions of aesthetics as being basic to human and social 
> > development can
> > be dismissed as 'emotive ravings about a particular sort of music he 
> > likes'.
> > 
> > 
> > Keith:
> > 
> >  He is patronising and intimidatory, and I believe
> > > that many other intelligent and thoughtful people would be 
> > subscribers to
> > > Futurework and could be writing here for all our benefit were it 
> > not for
> > > his long and rambling postings which are often impossible to 
> > understand
> > > unless you give each paragraph a great deal of study.
> > 
> > Selma:
> > 
> > I find Ray anything but patronizing and intimidatory. He has 
> > demonstrated a
> > kind of patience and understanding that I can only admire. I fully
> > understand his frustration at having to deal with the kind of 
> > responses he
> > receives.
> > 
> > I have chosen to refuse to invest my time and energy as he does in 
> > an
> > attempt to contribute to a conversation that he keeps hoping will 
> > lead to
> > some important insights and understandings of human and social 
> > behavior. I
> > am somewhat older than Ray and perhaps my experience as a woman 
> > makes me a
> > little more aware of the kinds of conversations in which many 
> > participants
> > are more interested in proving they are right than in coming to any 
> > real
> > understanding of anything. There is a considerable literature that 
> > testifies
> > to this as being more a male characteristic than a female 
> > characteristic. I
> > have learned to conserve my energy and choose my fights as a result. 
> > I have
> > to admit that I sometimes have pangs of guilt that I am not trying 
> > to give
> > Ray a helping hand as he battles here.  But it has seemed to me to 
> > be
> > hopeless.
> > 
> > However, I read his posts avidly; I have no trouble understanding 
> > what he is
> > talking about; I have learned a great deal and understood so much 
> > more than
> > I did before I was lucky enough to encounter him on this list. Many 
> > of the
> > things he says are insights that just feel so true and right. If  I 
> > ever
> > write that definitive book of social theory I will owe him an 
> > enormous debt
> > for clarifying so much that should have been obvious but wasn't 
> > until he
> > expressed it as only he can.
> > 
> > Selma
> > 
> > 
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