Christian Seberino wrote:
On Mon, March 26, 2007 5:30 pm, Karl Cunningham wrote:
For someone who is irresponsible enough to make an unwanted baby or
infect someone with an STD, sex is more likely to be a troublesome
behavior. And if all they want is sex, telling them to get married isn't
going to help. For most people responsible enough to avoid those
problems, sex as I described earlier will be just fine.
I'm far from an expert in this area but I'm told that women are not wired
that way. They don't want (in general) to 'just have sex'. So casual sex
would be a males' paradise but most likely not a females' paradise.
Who's talking about paradise? I am talking about satisfying sexual
desires, passion as previously stated. I have met plenty of women who
seemingly want to just have sex. Certainly one can say that they've been
raised in a male-dominated society and have repressed true feelings on
the matter. I don't think we're going to get to a consensus on this,
especially when it appears that only men are discussing it.
I did talk to my wife about this. She said that many women would rather
have sex where there is something emotionally more than just the act of
having sex. This likely varies a lot with age, race, social background,
etc. Many, perhaps most men would also prefer to have sex where there is
emotionally more than just the act of having sex. For both genders this
is a preference, not a requirement. Lust and horny feelings can dominate
for both genders.
Both genders have sexual desires, strong at times, and both can and do
on their own volition want to "just have sex". As I said in my earlier
qualification, I'm talking about sex between "consenting adults where
neither has undue power over the other".
This leaves out a large category of people who have sex and are in
serious, committed (to varying degrees), unmarried relationships. For
them the relationship is often very emotional, with plenty of stability
and future, and sex is certainly more than casual.
I feel the problem you present (men having sex with undesiring women),
if it is indeed a problem, can more effectively be addressed by
suggesting better communication rather than abstinence. And again, the
ones who are going to listen to either suggestion aren't the ones
causing the majority of the problem.
Karl
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