Christian Seberino wrote:
On Tue, March 27, 2007 4:55 am, Andrew Lentvorski wrote:
Christian Seberino wrote:
A marriage *is* a commitment.
No, a marriage is an ungainly amalgamation of a contract and a religious
ceremony entered into for various reasons. Commitment to partner is
simply one of the many reasons (and, sadly, often not the most important
one); this is part of the reason for the high divorce rate.
One could perhaps say there are 2 parts to a marriage...(A) the sincere
commitment between 2 people and (B) the legal formalities to make it
official.
I agree people could have (B) without (A). (A) is the more important part
IMHO.
If some guy told our daughters that they were committed but "didn't
believe in marriage" we both know that's a bunch of crap
You have a profoundly narrow view of human social interaction.
Of the people I know who ever identify as committed but not married, a
quick count on my fingers places the separation rate at 12%.
Whereas the separation rate amongst my married friends sits just above
50%.
Funnily enough, the people who actively choose to be with their partner
every day seem to do better than those who are merely married. Go figure.
What do these numbers mean? Are you saying making a public and legal
profession of your commitment somehow weakens the commitment?
Could do under the right circumstances.
Why would people be committed but not married?
Why ruin a perfectly good relationship by getting married?
But speaking for myself and my wife: because we love and respect each
other, and we have a mutual support system that works within the
arrangement, and for the reasons we've chosen.
Why would they not be willing to do the legal paperwork?
Hint: marriage in this country is _not_ defined as a personal
institution, but as a government-sanctioned political and financial
institution.
Are they really committed?
Committed to what? And why do you assume that commitment is an eternal
state, unchanging regardless or new information, new and unforeseen
personal and social changes, environmental, governmental, financial,
health changes?
Is their relationship a secret?
Chris
Depends on who's asking. And why.
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