On Tue, March 27, 2007 4:25 pm, DJA wrote: > More often it's harder to stay. And for all the wrong reasons. My > observation says that it's more harmful to the individuals in the > relationship (or marriage if you insist), especially the children to > maintain that relationship past the point where is becomes > dysfunctional, destructive, and downright harmful. > > I've seen this in my own family, and while I have the context of the > history, I still can't see the rationale of maintaining a bad > relationship - other than misery loves company, living with the devil > you know, and just plain denial and fear of the unknown.
The same way that I emphasized that marriage is really about a commitment more than just a legal document maybe now I must mention that divorce is really about more than just a legal document. If two married people are not willing to work through problems, are harboring bitterness and basically not "doing the work", then are effectively already divorced. They broke their marriage vows long ago way before they sign the divorce papers. Chris -- [email protected] http://www.kernel-panic.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/kplug-list
