Please! Make it stop! ~Don
On Jun 20, 2013, at 1:46 PM, hwedhlor <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Jenny, > > Of course people are concerned about words. Words are how > we communicate, for the most part. Most words have > definitions that are accepted widely enough to be included > in current dictionaries. > > In the strictest of definitions of biological "genealogy" > the primary purpose of entering the names of two individuals > of opposite gender in our databases is to identify one as > the biological father, and the other as the biological > mother of a child. Not to identify any residential, social, > civil or religious associations. However, tagging all > sexual relationships that resulted in offspring as > "marriages" is ridiculous. > > Those other relationships however are important to defining > the "family" environments that existed, and they are > important to us as family historians in both recording, and > researching our family histories. For example, in my case I > was raised by loving, adoptive parents, and for the first > decade of my life the only "family" I knew were members of > that extended adoptive family. They are, and will remain, > family to me. Conversely once I discovered my biological > relations I expanded my definition of "family" to include > each and every one of them, with whom I am also blessed with > having a loving relationship. All of those "family" > members, biological and adoptive, are in my database, and I > have identified the relationship between myself and my > biological and adoptive parents so that I can easily switch > between the lines within Legacy Family Tree. > > The primary definition of "relationship" is simply "the > quality or state of being related; connection." If two > people create a child then by definition they had a > relationship in that creation, no matter how fleeting, or > involuntary that relationship might have been. No matter > what the nature, or duration of the relationship, if it > resulted in offspring then one of the two people involved > was the father, and the other was the mother. Conversely as > genealogists we have no interest in documenting the dating > history of our family members. If a relationship that did > not result in offspring was acknowledged by civil or > religious documentation, or was recognized by family and/or > society as a "marriage" that relationship belongs in our > databases if we are recording family history. I'm sure > there are additional relationships that I've overlooked, and > short of same-sex relationships the end-user is free to > document those in Legacy Family Tree to their hearts content. > > John Zimmerman > Mesa, AZ > > On 20-Jun-13 6:22 AM, Jenny M Benson wrote: >> On 18/06/2013 17:10, John Zimmerman wrote: >>> Why not simply rename the "Marriage Indormation Window" to call it the >>> "Relationship Information Window"? >> Because then people would quibble over the meaning of the word >> "Relationship" and say that a "one-night-stand" or AI or rape or >> whatever does not constitute a "Relationship". >> >> It has long been my opinion that people (not specifically Legacy users) >> get far too hung up on actual words, rather than the intended meaning of >> a word or phrase. > > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > Archived messages after Nov. 21 2009: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > Archived messages from old mail server - before Nov. 21 2009: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > Follow Legacy on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/LegacyFamilyTree) and on > our blog (http://news.LegacyFamilyTree.com). > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > Legacy User Group guidelines: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp Archived messages after Nov. 21 2009: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Archived messages from old mail server - before Nov. 21 2009: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp Follow Legacy on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/LegacyFamilyTree) and on our blog (http://news.LegacyFamilyTree.com). To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp
