On 2/21/01 7:25 AM, "Tim Bowden" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> We kicked off annual physical conventions a few years back. During the
> very first one, the resident rogue went to bed with a willing accomplice
> who left behind a hubby and two toddlers. The blowup happened when a
> close friend of the errant mother and family back in the midwest began
> sending private hate E-mail to the rogue.
>
> He complained to me. On balance, in this case, the abuser was much more
> valuable to the list than the abused.
>
> So what do you do?
I'll try. Based on what you say here, assuming you haven't missed a wrinkle
or three -- even though the list and the convention are related, I just
don't see this as a list issue. So I'd tell them to settle it privately,
keep it off the list, and the person who leaks it onto the list gets put on
moderated status or kicked off.
This stuff happens. You aren't their mother or babysitter, except on the
list. Unless they were publically setting this up ON the list, my primary
focus would be to (a) keep it off the list, and (b) not get in the
crosshairs.
I'd try really hard to stay out of this. I'm not sure the list is really
relevant to the issue, any more than a professor is responsible if two
students in the same class head off to a hotel afterwards. But if they start
making out in the classroom, or if someone shows up mid-lecture and starts
screaming at someone else, my primary interest is in quiet so I can finish
the lecture, and privately worring that one of them has a gun or knife...
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