Hi Chris, It's not only about the lute... The issue is really important and goes deep - how to be open and honest but polite or at least respectful at the same time. I think we protect ourselves in the first place saying we are so unsecure and so far away from being an expert that we cannot utter anything... For instance I mostly do not really dare or bother to tell the waiter criticism about the meal, not to speak about wine, even if I really did not enjoy it, because I am not an expert fearing that actually the meal and/or wine might be absolutely o.k. like that... one feels so unsecure, but of course openly tells one's neighbours and compalins to THEM (what does this tell us???) ... hm... About a year ago I realized only in the evening that my trousers' fly had been open all afternoon. Many people MUST have seen it, but nobody told me. I sweared to myself if I would see somebody in the same situation I would tell him or her. I actually did so once or twice... but recently there was an extremely beautiful and tastefully clothed woman standing a little apart from me in the train, with her fly open, not so really wide, but visible... I did not dare to approach her and tell her, and said to myself why don't I pretend going to the loo and tell her on the way... I did not dare... of course with billions of reasons and excuses in my head telling me why I should NOT tell her... so I fear she had to realize the thing only in the evening, like my self once upon a time...
But how to correct oneself and improve if NOBODY says ANYTHING... instead people create a not-so-comfortable social situation which you cannot really understand but you feel it... that's always the big problem with us, actively and passively. Hope that is not so diverting from the lute. F ------------------------------------ Dr. Franz Mechsner Hanse Institute for Advanced Study Lehmkuhlenbusch 4 D-27753 Delmenhorst/Bremen GERMANY E-mail: [1][email protected] Phone: +49 (0)4221 9160-215 Fax: +49 (0)4221 9160-179 __________________________________________________________________ Von: [email protected] im Auftrag von chriswilke Gesendet: Mo 11.01.2010 01:31 An: Ed Durbrow; Daniel Shoskes; LuteNet list; Franz Mechsner Betreff: [LUTE] Re: Conradi Sonata Hi Franz, I always try to include some positive constructive criticism when I comment on people's things. This is tough to do, though. Things must be worded very carefully in print or the most well-meaning advice can sound just mean. Of course, there's always a good glob of personal preference in there as well. Chris --- On Sat, 1/9/10, Franz Mechsner <[email protected]> wrote: > From: Franz Mechsner <[email protected]> > Subject: [LUTE] Re: Conradi Sonata > To: "Ed Durbrow" <[email protected]>, "Daniel Shoskes" <[email protected]>, "LuteNet list" <[email protected]> > Date: Saturday, January 9, 2010, 9:44 PM > A little > observation: as a rule, all performances are commented with > exalted praize only > ("Welldonewonderful...") plus silence on anything > which might be improved or on which one > might be of different opinion > - in strong contrast to the discussions > where we can learn so much from > each other... > > > -- > > > To get on or off this list see list information at > [2]http://www.cs.dartmouth.edu/~wbc/lute-admin/index.html > To get on or off this list see list information at [3]http://www.cs.dartmouth.edu/~wbc/lute-admin/index.html -- References 1. mailto:[email protected] 2. http://www.cs.dartmouth.edu/~wbc/lute-admin/index.html 3. http://www.cs.dartmouth.edu/~wbc/lute-admin/index.html
