of course, it's an oversimplification. the number of reasons for cheating is probably as diverse as the population of cheaters.
On Nov 12, 3:11 pm, CrossBow <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Oversimplification:) > > On Wed, Nov 12, 2008 at 2:59 PM, Jason (Memphis) > > > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > ....perhaps men and women cheat because someone is sexy and so the > > person wants to have sex with them? Species of animals (for example, > > homo sapiens) have been cheating with other members of that species > > for a long time....and occasionally even cheating with other species > > such as sheep, donkeys, chickens, their own hand, dogs, horses, > > etc. ;-) > > > On Nov 12, 10:07 am, CrossBow <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > >> Groom thier targets and go in for the kill? > > >> People don't just cheat because they are "bored" with their > >> mates. That is an easy answer to a complex issue. People grow apart for all > >> kinds of reasons (violence, distaste, educational > >> imbalance, disillusionment, etc.) Staying together can be a mental drain > >> that is exhaustive. Don't most extramarital affairs begin with the open > >> door > >> of unease with the current partner? Oh, but it does seem that too much > >> booty > >> is not enough for some men and women no matter how lovely or handsome and > >> accomplished thier current partner.. is that what you allude to with the > >> spiderish "groom and kill reference"? > > >> What if you have that acceptable partner and you meet one that is more than > >> exceptional for that time in your life? This person can turn over your life > >> if you let them. Who can say they haven't met that person? Do you wave > >> goodbye and desperately fight your own biology? Is time and distance the > >> best medicine? Overwhelming attraction for others does not mean you are a > >> weak and reprehensible twit, it means you are a normal human being with > >> biological urges that allow and maybe promote infidelity!! Gene spreading? > >> That is if you believe in the scientific method and much of the research > >> out > >> there about what makes us attractive to each other. Biology handed us > >> monogamy for childrearing and religion came along and cemented it into > >> marriage with overly ideal strictures. There seems to be more than one > >> perfect partner out their for each of us, so doesn't that seem like a > >> biological fail-safe to you? > > >> So, tell me it is not a very unrealistic expectation that goes against our > >> basic caveman biology - to expect this religious based ideology of perfect > >> long-lived fidelity? This untainted fidelity is an ideal that few can keep > >> no matter what your partner looks like or how much bloody money > >> they make! We have been indoctrinated to believe in romanticism and it > >> consistantly lets us down as an ideal that can stay the same, floating > >> along > >> in bliss. Not saying mind you, that you can't accept ebb and flow within a > >> partnership and work to make it endure the ebb. > > >> Just examining the amorous motivations of humanity:) > > >> On Tue, Nov 11, 2008 at 11:32 PM, Jason (Memphis) <[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > >> > wrote: > > >> > Angelia, > > >> > I know women and men who've cheated on their spouse. Within this > >> > small sample, the reasons vary but I agree that women becoming bored > >> > with their husband is definitely one of the many possible reasons for > >> > infidelity. Perhaps that is why women groom their targets and then go > >> > in for the kill? > > >> > Jason > > >> > On Nov 11, 8:52 pm, "Angelia Stinnett" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >> > wrote: > >> > > Thanks for writing in Jason, though men don't cheat because of their > >> > wives > >> > > looks, they cheat because they can. They cheat because their wives are > >> > > burdened with all the domestic responsibilities and not catering to > >> > > what > >> > men > >> > > see as their entitlement. > > >> > > When men cheat, it's not with women who are better looking than their > >> > wives, > >> > > generally. It's who is available...who would put out... and they > >> > generally > >> > > start relationships with people they work with, spending an average 4-8 > >> > week > >> > > "grooming" their potential target and then as soon as they get what > >> > > they > >> > > want, they drop their "girlfriend" and live in regret for a long time. > >> > It's > >> > > only the really insecure asses that chase young, vulnerable women for > >> > looks, > >> > > with serial selection of victims. Most men cheat because their > >> > relationship > >> > > with their wives is bad...and boredom...men rarely see sexual > >> > satisfaction > >> > > within marriage as their own responsibility. > > >> > > And most divorces are initiated by the wife....though women are nearly > >> > > always the ones with child responsibilities. The main factor in women > >> > > suffering is economics....which has nothing to do with looks. Fat older > >> > > women make more money, on average, than younger, skinny women. > > >> > > Sarah Palin's looks have absolutely nothing to do with why feminist > >> > > hate > >> > > her...if so, why don't we hate Jenifer Aniston...Jessica Simpson....we > >> > hate > >> > > Palin because she's an idiot who made her career on looks and then had > >> > the > >> > > nerve to show up, trying to play us for a fool...women don't like Sarah > >> > > Palin because we are not fooled by skinny legs, big boobs, nice > >> > > clothes, > >> > and > >> > > botox. Feminist what someone who isn't a G.D. idiot who wants to force > >> > > us > >> > to > >> > > give birth to rapists' children and then expect us to raise it with > >> > > lower > >> > > wages and no social services. > > >> > > Feminists can't stand Palin because she assumes too damn much and we > >> > > see > >> > > through her. > > >> > > Angelia- Hide quoted text - > > >> - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Memphis Freethought Alliance" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/memphisfreethoughtalliance?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
