Love can, no doubt, be challenging because of our all too human trait of allowing our egos to take charge. We act out in ways that create our psychodramas in a subconscious effort to tell ourselves and everyone around us what keeps us from love. When no one gets it, conflicts arise and the battle begins. We act out in the space of our most loving relationships because they provide the greatest atmosphere of trust and safety. We all act out our shadow natures, either by self destructive behavior (dark) or pursuing the glamor or lust (golden) and if it is not recognized as shadow, and brought to light with patience and love, it is probably resented, and the loved ones feel separate, betrayed, disrespected. It is not easy afterward, to find our way back to harmony. But if we can, the intimacy will have increased depth and strength.
Sadly enough, our deepest fears can prevent maintaining intimacy. Our fears of the things that we have tucked away inside ourselves and cannot face (it will come as dark shadow anyway,) the fear of inadequacy (this will come as golden shadow - belief that we don't deserve what is good.) We mistakenly feel that it is easier to move out of relationship than face the shadow that arises from it. Then again, it is hard to say, because some relationships just run their natural course, and we are called to something higher. Safe to say, that if our feelings about the relationship are overwhelming, shadow is lurking, and we are better off reconciling our own shadow before we make any decisions about the relationship, because it will just come up again and again in other relationships until we do. The reason that tantric sex is so powerful, is that it connects love, sex and god in a way that nothing else can. It allows us to feel intense life, all the way up and down, through and through. It makes it worth ironing out the kinks in relationship because if we can, the relationship can become endlessly fulfilling. There is much more to tantra than sex, but that is an agape discussion. On May 1, 7:07 pm, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote: > 31 is most certainly an age of questioning and discovery. I wish you well in > your journey. > > I was married for seven years, and followed that with a relationship for a > little over three. This made up the vast majority of my adult long term > relationship experience (I'm 34). Now I'm exploring the concept of something > entirely different...the happy medium of the overwhelming passion with the > long term friendship. > > Dogma can be dangerous in all things, Love is no different. In every Love, I > have learned valuable lessons, some joyous, some painful, all important. I > remain opento the lessons of Love, and in remaining so, remain open to the > Love itself. I embrace it with the wanton abandon of the samurai, who enters > the battlefield with no fear of death, and in doing so, leaves the field, not > unscathed, but still alive, and ready for future glories. > > ...and may it always be so. > > > > [ Attached Message ]From:Rosey <[email protected]>To:"\"Minds Eye\"" > <[email protected]>Date:Fri, 1 May 2009 14:14:56 -0700 > (PDT)Local:Fri, May 1 2009 5:14 pmSubject:[Mind's Eye] Re: What is the nature > of Love? > > To think I am able to say all these things, yet I've been married > since I was 18 and never have I been with another man. 13 years > later, that little bit of wonderment remains in investigation. > Pushing the devil back into the hole he came out of. Removing my > horns. I will not succumb to my own demise. Ignore this comment. > > On May 1, 4:44 pm, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote: > > > I'll let you know on my death bed... ;) > > > On Fri, May 1, 2009 at 1:59 PM, Rosey <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > A search for love is not to be interpreted as literal. It is more or > > > less the general idea, as love and relationships happen per chance. > > > The search itself is from within; whether or not this person is the > > > one. It happens through experience. But there are those rare > > > occasions, where one is hit, as if smacked by a storm of feelings. A > > > series of neurological blockades, that's what I like to call them, > > > they blind you from all rational thought. You find yourself doing > > > things that one wouldn't consider sane, unable to let a day, an hour, > > > and sometimes a minute pass without thinking about that person. > > > Unfortunately it doesn't mean that the person thinks of you in such a > > > way. How unfortunate it is. I do believe that situations like that > > > happen where two people completely hit it off, but it doesn't last. > > > It fades. Once the human being attains the product of his desire, it > > > will lose its luster. and yes you're right to keep the love > > > attainable one must continuously sculpt it. So the question is, which > > > is stronger, love at first sight or a love that grows? > > > > On May 1, 9:30 am, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote: > > >> Ha! Emptor caveat...a subtle twist with a great change in meaning, Rosey. > > > >> For the artist, passion need not be externally stimulated, but can come > > >> from within. The passion need not be chased...rather crafted, shaped, > > >> created, and continuously cultivated. Romance is not a force of nature, > > >> but an art. Ask Don Juan... ;-) > > > >> [ Attached Message ]From:Rosey <[email protected]>To:"\"Minds Eye\"" > > >> <[email protected]>Date:Thu, 30 Apr 2009 15:07:20 -0700 > > >> (PDT)Local:Thurs, Apr 30 2009 6:07 pmSubject:[Mind's Eye] Re: What is > > >> the nature of Love? > > > >> An efficacious search for that ultimate fervor will only result in a > > >> devastated state of unfulfillment; One's expectancy usually differs > > >> from that of another's. There is no attainment of satisfaction when > > >> it comes to passion; as the human being is incapable of gratifyingly > > >> quenching such a thirst. > > > >> Unfortunately, I too am a hopeless romantic. Emptor Caveat.- Hide > > >> quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text - > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. 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