I didn't feel it was like indecision or a tool of evaluation. I think I regarded it as disloyalty until I understood it better. Perhaps I was looking for absolutes? I didn't even like to hear others discussing their ambivalancies! Yes- perhaps Ornamental is correct! :-) But this was centered in emotions primarily- I had to lift the concept into my noggin.
On Mar 10, 12:25 pm, "pol.science kid" <[email protected]> wrote: > is ambivalence to be looked at in terms...or dissected of thesis, antithesis > and synthesis..only...the anti thesis is as natural as thesis...not merely > an artificial correction.... > > > > > > On Thu, Mar 10, 2011 at 6:33 PM, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > Yikes! > > > But Mardi and Gibbs have other ideas on the subject which suggest > > ambivalence is quite normal. > > > It depends on the choice/decision. I am quite at ease in making most > > choices- informed, confident of my judgement and taste, etc. BUT... > > > There are some areas that do indeed get muddied up sometimes and that > > would often be relationships and the more intimate, the more > > complicated. But it could also be another type of decision that has > > consequences- a major purchase or committment to a career, etc. I am > > not talking about the Pruefrock debate. > > > Often there is a conflict between duty and expectation of one's > > position and desire, feelings, etc. that are hestitant or in > > opposition. In my case, I have agreed to a two week visit and I really > > do not feel up to it. (Guilt?) Could it be the long, longer, longest > > winter in memory? Is it putting away the knickknacks so the toddlers > > won't break them? Is it that my routine and order will fly to the > > winds? Or will the advent of spring- for surely it will arrive one of > > these days- open windows, no boots, change the entire atmosphere? If > > the past is a guide, it will be fun and lovely and I will grieve when > > they depart. BUT... > > > This child and I are very close yet have really gone through some > > stuff together. I debated and she made reservations. :-) Am I still > > remembering her as a teenager? > > > Perhaps ambivalence comes into play when there is a good deal of > > history/information and we get swarmed. So Mardi and Gibbs make good > > points- go with your heart and accept the ambivalences. Afterall, it > > is all all those differences that add spice to relationships, as well. > > > But she can't have that ivory Buddha... :-) > > > The instance when someone defined ambivalence was crucial and I > > suppose part of a plan to help me assess facts versus wishes until I > > finally had the courage to file for divorce. > > > On Mar 10, 2:44 am, ornamentalmind <[email protected]> wrote: > > > When felt as being problematic as rigsy does, ambivalence by > > > definition is ‘pathological’.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambivalence > > > > The issue is not having been clarified enough to actually integrate > > > apparently differing issues, values, notions etc. So, in this context, > > > her feelings of distress point to an actual need for clarification. > > > > There is a point where one can actually integrate all aspects of a > > > situation/self. And, even though Wilber is more of a pop icon than a > > > final embodiment of truth, he and his integralism is a good place to > > > ‘start’ when it comes to this topic – ambivalence. > > >http://integrallife.com/http://www.integralworld.net/augustine4.htmlh... > > > > The topic, as simple as it is, can be made into a vast labyrinth of > > > thought. > > > > Molly on occasion addresses this too and in one of the above links > > > philosophers are addressed including Plato. > > > > As far as I’ve found, his “The Fifth” is about as far as one can go. > > > > On Mar 9, 8:34 am, [email protected] wrote: > > > > > Re ambivalence - It is not pathological but absolutely normal. > > Love/hate exist in every relationship both with the self and the self and > > the self and others. If only we all were logical in the sense of scientific > > cause and effect we could always be 'objective." But we human beings are > > much more complex than simply disembodied intellects. There is also the > > realm of mixed feelings. When you add linear (scientific causality) logic > > with the realm of messy feelings you get a hybrid causality I refer to as > > experiential logic (thinking plus mixed feelings and emotions). > > Acknowledging this fact validate my wise psychoanalyst's insightful > > observation: "In between black and white are not shades of gray; rather, > > there are colors. > > > > > Gibbs Williams > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > From: rigsy03 <[email protected]> > > > > To: "Minds Eye" <[email protected]> > > > > Sent: Wed, Mar 9, 2011 8:46 am > > > > Subject: [Mind's Eye] Re: Ambivalence > > > > > I feel it in my mind and body and it can be very distressing- back and > > > > forth- this way and that- a maybe then no and all over again! :-) > > > > > The brain/logic could have one arena and the sub-conscious/emotions > > > > have another. > > > > > Sometimes I just don't decide and let whatever happens, happen- i.e. I > > > > tune out choice. This can be troublesome later if do not like the > > > > outcome! :-) > > > > > Someone once told me ambivalence is natural and normal and is a way of > > > > seeing things/relationships realistically. Perhaps that is true. > > > > > On Mar 9, 6:20 am, ornamentalmind <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > The first step is 'seeing' (being aware of) it. > > > > > > On Mar 9, 3:03 am, "pol.science kid" <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > i so get what you mean...... > > > > > > > On Mar 8, 6:47 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > How do you all/y'all handle this nettle?- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text - > > -- > \--/ Peace- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
