I thought about this some more. I think vanity had a lot to do with the decision and fear, finally. I had a reaction to whiskey two summers ago- and that prompted my decision. An ultrasound checked out okay so that accounts for the chance/luck/timing. Anyway- thanks- as it does take some resolve to stick with a good decision. (Actually, "resolve" is not one of my strong points as I often "waver".)
I think taste buds are developed and I had a varied diet as a child plus my mother was an excellent cook which countered the mystery fare at school and camp. I guess it's good to have a critical palate. But- Why am I paying $20. for this lunch of second rate food? What in the world is that chef on tv throwing together? Etc. I am not talking about elaborate fare- good food cooked well and complimented with side dishes. (Heaven knows what I am missing by smoking! lol You might have to pull me off the ceiling!) On Jun 22, 3:55 am, paradox <[email protected]> wrote: > Not many :) > > Admire your resolve. > > On Jun 21, 10:48 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > I think more by chance/luck/timing. I hate tea. :-) That's my other > > "half"- French and Scot-Irish and a long (family) history of ardent > > spirits and mischief. But I do remember the tastes very well and have > > to take care not to glamorize booze for every now and then I > > wonder...or am tempted...but am doing well and am healthy so I > > continue to choose not to drink at all. There are other delicious > > tastes. > > > On Jun 21, 1:01 pm, paradox <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > Don't mean to pry. but...teetotal by choice? > > > > On Jun 21, 4:22 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Wonderful! Except I no longer drink though my taste buds can still > > > > "taste" the wine. Sensory memory, I guess. > > > > > On Jun 20, 9:22 am, paradox <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > Oh, i dont know...a full bodied merlot, a creme brulee...:) > > > > > > On Jun 20, 12:47 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > One can't order a friend like an item off a menu, you know! I'll > > > > > > take > > > > > > you- medium rare, etc. Yum! Of course there is some give and take. > > > > > > > At the car dealer's a couple of weeks ago there was such an > > > > > > explosion > > > > > > of smiles between me and a man my age- just for a minute. He might > > > > > > have been a Scot- long legs though he was seated in an adjoining > > > > > > waiting room. But maybe he was a wolf! :-) My friend said- "Just go > > > > > > for those twinkling moments, dear!" > > > > > > > On Jun 20, 6:12 am, allan deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > Rigsy I would have a difficult time picturing some one changing > > > > > > > you, part a > > > > > > > friend ship is accepting a person as they are without > > > > > > > qualification to > > > > > > > change.. > > > > > > > Allan > > > > > > > > On Mon, Jun 20, 2011 at 12:09 PM, rigsy03 <[email protected]> > > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > Then aren't you putting some kind of boundary/expectation on > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > relationship? ( You may like me, but don't attempt to change > > > > > > > > me.) How > > > > > > > > can you not qualify the relationship as change "happens". > > > > > > > > Between > > > > > > > > females, a male can tip the relationship. Between male and > > > > > > > > female, sex > > > > > > > > can turn to love or ruin the friendship. Sometimes, the hardest > > > > > > > > person > > > > > > > > to be a friend to is oneself. > > > > > > > > > On Jun 20, 2:23 am, allan deheretic <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > I Thin there are many levels of friendship. Most of them I > > > > > > > > > barely know, > > > > > > > > if > > > > > > > > > at all a casual matter, and among these levels there is a > > > > > > > > > very special > > > > > > > > one > > > > > > > > > that accepts me as I am but likes me any way without > > > > > > > > > qualification to > > > > > > > > > change. > > > > > > > > > Allan > > > > > > > > > > On Sun, Jun 19, 2011 at 11:52 PM, pol.science kid > > > > > > > > > <[email protected] > > > > > > > > >wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > a few days back i read some post somewhere about the lack of > > > > > > > > > > literature on friendship in philosophy mainly...and how it > > > > > > > > > > has been > > > > > > > > > > ignored and so on.... so it got me thinking about the whole > > > > > > > > > > affair...Friendship.... i asked myself who my friends > > > > > > > > > > were...i am very > > > > > > > > > > casual in calling people my friends... in fact i realised i > > > > > > > > > > didnt > > > > > > > > > > really pay much attention to it.... the word i mean... i > > > > > > > > > > wouldnt know > > > > > > > > > > who to call my best friend...or a close and intimate > > > > > > > > > > friend... > > > > > > > > > > because..it happens so to the person whom i would reveal > > > > > > > > > > my dearest > > > > > > > > > > thoughts would be a relative stranger..in fact i dont do it > > > > > > > > > > much...share thoughts..personal ones...i do it here but... > > > > > > > > > > maybe > > > > > > > > > > because of the anonymity it lends.... plus i tend to > > > > > > > > > > outgrow some > > > > > > > > > > friends... i know it sounds horrible..i dont really do it on > > > > > > > > > > purpose..outgrow would mean... gradually losing > > > > > > > > > > touch...after i move > > > > > > > > > > or something... i am sorry i dont want to make this some > > > > > > > > > > sort of > > > > > > > > > > confession...but there are so many questions that confront > > > > > > > > > > and rack my > > > > > > > > > > brain sometimes.... is it later in life that one makes real > > > > > > > > > > friends...i mean after youve left that peer space...school > > > > > > > > > > or > > > > > > > > > > college...l in fact leave that...its not that > > > > > > > > > > significant... I once > > > > > > > > > > decided that Friendship is a vague term altogether... there > > > > > > > > > > are > > > > > > > > > > individual relationships...each having a different > > > > > > > > > > bearing... like a > > > > > > > > > > security personnel at your college gate... you get the > > > > > > > > > > point... I know > > > > > > > > > > this is a very vast topic.and i cant really analyse it > > > > > > > > > > right now cos > > > > > > > > > > this is a kind of spontaneous typing....so let me get to > > > > > > > > > > another > > > > > > > > > > point.... like i mentioned above i seem careless of > > > > > > > > > > friends...but yet > > > > > > > > > > i sometimes complain of the loneliness... which can be > > > > > > > > > > suffocating... > > > > > > > > > > and yet i draw a line and withdraw if any relation touches > > > > > > > > > > on lines of > > > > > > > > > > very personal.... i think one regards personal what one > > > > > > > > > > considers > > > > > > > > > > sacred... like ones thoughts..contemplations... my > > > > > > > > > > question is....is > > > > > > > > > > it possible to bond with Another... in an aristotelian > > > > > > > > > > way... because > > > > > > > > > > i believe one can give ones life for someone but still be > > > > > > > > > > out of > > > > > > > > > > something very impersonal.... are there some ...too self > > > > > > > > > > absorbed...that it is almost impossible to connect on that > > > > > > > > > > level... it > > > > > > > > > > is strange i have such high demands for any > > > > > > > > > > 'connection'...and yet i > > > > > > > > > > am convinced there is no way i can really be with another > > > > > > > > > > according to > > > > > > > > > > my standard... this must be awfully confusing... but there > > > > > > > > > > are many > > > > > > > > > > smart people here ho might get the basic point..... > > > > > > > > > > who is a friend? > > > > > > > > > > can one really defeat the loneliness or is this loneliness > > > > > > > > > > only > > > > > > > > > > immaturity on the souls part...... > > > > > > > > > > the question is now to you my 'friends'...convince me for > > > > > > > > > > something if > > > > > > > > > > you will......... > > > > > > > > > > -- > > > > > > > > > ( > > > > > > > > > ) > > > > > > > > > I_D Allan > > > > > > > > > > If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken > > > > > > > > > Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,- Hide quoted text > > > > > > > > > - > > > > > > > > > > - Show quoted text - > > > > > > > > -- > > > > > > > ( > > > > > > > ) > > > > > > > I_D Allan > > > > > > > > If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken > > > > > > > Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
