> > Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself. > Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the > time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life. > Now....what is the moral to this story? >
marsha: Hahahaha... I know you're a smart guy, but it seems I haven't given you enough credit. One tiny correction: That was CHOOSE. Women would like to choose for herself. margaret - ok; I know I don't post on this group nearly enough...and despite the fact that I refuse to use the feminist label - and believe not just in 'equal rights' but also 'equal lefts' ...I have to agree with Marsha on this one. The story is beautiful - but I've always taken special offense when the language says: "he would *allow* her to make the choice"; he would "*let her*...be in charge of her own life" It's so amusing, really, when one person - male or female - thinks they have the 'control' in a relationship dynamic - regardless of gender of other partner - and makes statements like this to the other.... I once had a boyfriend who said: '...but I 'LET' you do whatever you want... I gently tried to explain the difference, but I don't think he EVER understood the underlying implications of using the words in this way. "Who am I to limit anyone elses experiences? Margaret Warren mm Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org/md/archives.html
