margaret said:
- ...I have to agree with Marsha on this one. The story is beautiful - but I've
always taken special offense when the language says: "he would *allow* her to
make the choice"; he would "*let her*...be in charge of her own life"... I once
had a boyfriend who said: '...but I 'LET' you do whatever you want... I gently
tried to explain the difference, but I don't think he EVER understood the
underlying implications of using the words in this way.
dmb says:
Oh, c'mon ladies. Let's keep it in perspective. It is simply unrealistic to
expect proper feminist attitudes from pre-modern European fiction. We're
talking about a time of feudalism and witch burnings.
And is it really important that your boyfriend phrase his respect for your
autonomy so carefully? That seems waaaay too picky to me. And how many wives
won't "let" their husbands do this or that? Plenty, that's for sure.
Don't make it about boys versus girls. Gender isn't terribly relevant in a
disembodied philosophical discussion group like this one. Making sense is what
matters, right? The type of equipment in one's pants shouldn't effect that.
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