Hi Dave,

Matt said:
I pull out the above in your last post, Dave, to help pin down why I 
think you're intending to say something to me.  The obliqueness of 
your recent posts, however, would seem to obscure that intention by 
virtue of the obscurity of their intended point, the "lesson" you've 
been intending to teach.  It seems like an algebra lesson for a 
calculus student, and the calculus student is as yet unclear what they 
missed in the algebra.  Indeed, your general penchant for "see" 
clauses creates an arresting, demonstrative-like quality to your 
writing that presses and hounds a reader like a finger in the chest. 
 But I continue to confess my dismay that I'm not sure what new thing 
I am supposed to be seeing.  I confess that I may be that unideal 
reader, whose intelligence is not flattered by, as you put it, being 
"smart enough to understand everything" you say.

Be that as it may, I stand upright and unfazed in the face of the 
finger, and remain simply curious as to its purport.  It couldn't 
possibly be in contradistinction to something I said, could it?

DMB said:
I really don't understand why you feel pressed or hounded. You 
haven't given me much to go on. You extracted one short sentence 
from a pretty long post and on that slim basis tell me that you are 
offended. How do you figure my intention to say something to you is 
obscure? You started this thread and my posts are addressed to you 
by name. Yes, of course my intention is to say something to you 
about the issue you raised. There is nothing obscure about that. In 
fact, writing a monologue or essay, rather than having a dialogue, is 
one of your favorite sports. My last couple of posts have come to you 
in what I thought was your favorite shape. 

I think you know perfectly well that they were aimed at you and your 
points on your topic in your style. If that offends you, then what 
doesn't offend you? Jeez.

Matt:
Like I told you, it's your style that creates the appearance of pressure 
and hounding.  Your posts, particularly in the last year or so of your 
posting to the MD, are littered with these "see's," and I think this kind 
of use of them does create a rhetorical performance like the one I 
described, particularly when used on a peer.  (That, of course, 
assumes that one is communicating with someone one considers a 
peer: if it isn't, it creates a different rhetorical performance: 
condescension.)  Whether or not you intend that or not, I think we 
need to take responsibility for our rhetorical quirks (like Ian said 
about my runaway "you's" recently, and one might say about any of 
my other rhetorical patterns, which people have never had qualms 
about raising concerns about, and I've attempted to own and modify 
as I assess what I do and do not want to create the impression of in 
my writing).  And because I consider it a runaway quirk on your part, 
I have chosen not to feel hounded, so you've mis-read me on that 
score.  Instead of being made to feel as if I need to understand all of 
the things to be considered to be at your level of intelligence, I'm 
quite calmly asking for clarification on all of it, for it all remains 
obscure.  After all, in these last few posts you have just addressed 
"Matt" and nothing at all he's said specifically recently.  If he doesn't 
get it, is it all his fault?

Likewise on thinking I took offense: I'm not offended by the rhetorical 
finger pressing against my chest, I'm more bemused, and my tone (I 
think) reflected that in playfulness, and this because I can't figure why 
you are speaking so demonstratively with the points you are making.  
For, as I intimated a post or two ago, it seemed like we were in 
agreement from my point of view.  But still the finger pokes at me 
with its lesson, and still I can't figure what I'm supposed to be 
learning.

Like I said before, your explicit intention to say something to me 
seems clear: but what obscures whether this is really the case, 
whether the lesson is really for me or not, is the obscurity of _how_ 
this is a lesson for me, and what the lesson is.  What is it that I've 
fallen down on?  I can't see what that is, for I can't see that I've said 
anything that goes against these most recent lessons.  And 
sometimes when we speak to particular people in audiences, some 
of the things we say are not for _them_, but for the audience.  So I 
did want to consider the idea that perhaps the lesson wasn't for me 
at all, though you have cleared up that portion of my confusion.  I 
thought it was a good idea that I not just assume that everything 
you say about me.

It does sound, now, that you were intending a little mockery, but this 
seems at the very least retrospectively justified, given my own 
playfulness now.  However, while my point in the last two posts has 
been a very honest "I'm not sure at all what your point is," and given 
the misreading of offense you've just recorded, I take it that it is a 
very important step in our relationship that I not jump to any 
conclusions given a still increasing history of our mis-understandings 
of each other.  I would appreciate it if you returned the favor (of 
which you have done much more, recently, and I appreciate).  I don't 
want to trade moments of grandstanding anymore, even if this 
performance of mine is just one more in our illustrious series.  
Perhaps you remember my polite request a few days ago: "Now that 
you mention it again, I wasn't quite sure what you were meaning to 
convey to me by writing about the ideal reader.  Was it to say that you 
understand now what I had meant about amateur philosophers 
beginning by introspecting about their own standards?  Was it a signal 
of agreement?"  Were we not talking past each other for most of this 
conversation?  Did we not even agree on that?

You did reply to that in a post sent after I had sent my somewhat 
snarky confession of confusion (a confusion which is genuine), 
saying, "I don't understand your notion well enough to agree or 
disagree.  Your view hinges on a point that seems irrelevant to me."  
But it doesn't hinge on the Pirsigian formula of "we don't have static 
patterns, we are static patterns," which confuses me even more.  
This irrelevancy came up after we started talking past each other.  I 
thought it became clear (at the point you said "oh" a couple days 
ago) that you had mistakenly thought I was holding a position I never 
had an intention of holding.  And while I still see the formula as 
relevant, the point that we agreed on was that amateur philosophers 
don't have to start with external standards.  Our _explanation_ of 
why this is so does differ (though whether we really disagree even 
there remains opaque to me, as I also mentioned in the winding 
down).  But we started talking about amateur philosophers and what 
they should do, and that doesn't require us to agree on explanations 
as to why.  I wasn't asking whether you were agreeing to points you 
had just said you didn't understand (which you've repeated) and I 
confessed to being unable to do anything more about.  I was asking 
about agreement on amateur philosophers, our original conversation 
topic, and the thing you've been delivering lessons on these past 
couple posts.

So: to think I still need lessons on a good view of amateur philosophy 
is to claim that you don't believe me when I say that we are on the 
same overall page when it comes to amateur philosophers.  Right?  I 
said, "I don't want to suggest that one should start with standards"; 
you say, "Oh, I thought you were saying that" (that was Sept. 19th); 
and then you give more lessons implying that I need the lesson that 
we don't need to start with standards.  If that is _not_ the lesson that 
was being offered, then, as I tried starting with instead of assuming 
you were saying that you didn't think I was sincere, what are you 
saying to me?

Matt                                      
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