You know Belinda, I think that was my parents' approach to me sleeping with them. I have a fond memory of their bed being a welcoming place up until I was about 2 or 3 yrs then I have a memory of being cramped, hot, and itchy when in there...I soon preferred my own bed though would go in for reassurance. My dad had a similar ploy for avoiding housework: he would do it but happily get fired by my mum for not doing it to her expectations. Umm!
Re sex: I never felt it was a chore always something I really wanted too. Any time it was "expected" it was a definite turn off and a turn down. I always found an active sex life to actually be an energizer for me and was definetly prepared to sacrifice the housewifely jobs(but not the mothering joys) to play matahari. Granted this can be a bone of contention so to speak. I can accept being the odd woman out here: I am not overly fond of chocolate and never, never suffer from being too cold in air conditioning or any situations that don't involve a windchill factor. I know lactation is theoretically supposed to decrease sex drive and lubrication not so for me though it did inhibit ovulation until the absolute last breastfeed for all 3 girls. Even one feed a day kept fertility away. But not the sex drive. Oh well! marilyn ----- Original Message ----- From: "Belinda Maier" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Sunday, March 21, 2004 6:13 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] co-sleeping > When i got desperate with my second child who as about five and always in > our small bed as well as his new brother I tried many things. What worked > best was always welcoming him into our bed yet making him very uncomfortable > so his own bed was more attractive ie squishing him towards the edge of the > bed, being restless, dragging the pillow or blankets slightly off him etc. > He soon chose to have a cuddle then get back into his own comfy bed. > The partner and sex thing, I think parenting does sap a lot of energy for > sex but it doesnt have to be a bad thing it is just a stage of your life. > Most epople I know say when the kids get older you start to regain energy > for you sex life. It seems women are expected to be too much; mothers, > drivers, cleaners, workers and also lovers! Partners/men should be > apprecieated but it is like my kids, they dont just get rewarded for being > reasonable good poeple, that is an everyday expectation neither do we focus > on 'bad' behaviour, they are appreciated and loved and reminded tof the > qualities in them that we love. I get a bit frustrated when men are revered > for being so great when they are really doing no more than the average woman > is doing. > Belinda > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
