When my last was born 2 years ago, so I had 4 under 5 years, it was amazing what a vasectomy did for our sex lives. I highly recommend it for those who have 'finished' having babies. Jo ----- Original Message ----- From: "Nikki Macfarlane" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Monday, March 22, 2004 11:39 PM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] co-sleeping
> > I do remember saying "help yourself Im asleep" (which did seem to offend > but > > I was too tired to give a damn on that particular occasion). but I never > > found breastfeeding to inhibit desire or lubrication etc. I have found > > myself the "odd one out" in discussions which tend to blame breastfeeding > > for lack of interest. I actually felt really sexy -I had tits!! for the > > first time, so I guess we can be victims of our conditioning whether it is > > the madonna whore effect which some mums explain means they dont feel that > > they can equate being a mother with being spontaneous, or who the breasts > > "belong" to - me actually! > > Loved the "help yourself" comment Pinky. > > I see an enormous range of "normal" amongst mothers. Being exhausted makes > an enormous differnce to how interested a person is going to be in sex. As > does stress. > > I am not sure the lack of desire many women feel while breastfeeding is > simply conditioning. Speaking from absolute personal experience, I > thoroughly enjoy sex when I am not breastfeeding and have a particularly > good time when I am pregnant and definitely have a supercharged libido. I am > not able to blame housework on my lack of interest - living as an expat I > don't have any. Stress from looking after the kids is not the issue either - > three of them are at school all day and then I have full time help with them > in the afternoons and they are not exactly exhausting like they were when > they were little (two now in early teens). I never feel tired or run down. I > never feel particularly stressed. But I am very definitely not interested in > any form of sex while I am breastfeeding. It is purely a hormonal issue - > once I stop feeding I get those old feelings all flooding back - at least > that has happened the last 3 times so fingers crossed for this one! > > On the opposite end of the scale I have worked with many women who have been > hotter than hot from soon after giving birth despite feeding. Just depends > on the woman I guess! > > Nikki Macfarlane > > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
