> I do remember saying "help yourself Im asleep" (which did seem to offend but > I was too tired to give a damn on that particular occasion). but I never > found breastfeeding to inhibit desire or lubrication etc. I have found > myself the "odd one out" in discussions which tend to blame breastfeeding > for lack of interest. I actually felt really sexy -I had tits!! for the > first time, so I guess we can be victims of our conditioning whether it is > the madonna whore effect which some mums explain means they dont feel that > they can equate being a mother with being spontaneous, or who the breasts > "belong" to - me actually!
Loved the "help yourself" comment Pinky. I see an enormous range of "normal" amongst mothers. Being exhausted makes an enormous differnce to how interested a person is going to be in sex. As does stress. I am not sure the lack of desire many women feel while breastfeeding is simply conditioning. Speaking from absolute personal experience, I thoroughly enjoy sex when I am not breastfeeding and have a particularly good time when I am pregnant and definitely have a supercharged libido. I am not able to blame housework on my lack of interest - living as an expat I don't have any. Stress from looking after the kids is not the issue either - three of them are at school all day and then I have full time help with them in the afternoons and they are not exactly exhausting like they were when they were little (two now in early teens). I never feel tired or run down. I never feel particularly stressed. But I am very definitely not interested in any form of sex while I am breastfeeding. It is purely a hormonal issue - once I stop feeding I get those old feelings all flooding back - at least that has happened the last 3 times so fingers crossed for this one! On the opposite end of the scale I have worked with many women who have been hotter than hot from soon after giving birth despite feeding. Just depends on the woman I guess! Nikki Macfarlane -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
